Body Love, Pride, and Vanity

Occasionally, someone will pipe up in a conversation about body image to request consideration of pride and vanity. Suggestions of praising one’s own body aloud – either into a mirror or in conversation with others – can seem not only challenging, but downright conceited to some. Lavishing adoration upon one’s physical form is so far from the norm that it can feel foreign, uncomfortable, even dirty and shameful. Body love and self-acceptance are important, but at what point do we veer over into body worship and self-absorption? read more

Originally posted 2013-01-31 06:05:47.

Dressing for Yourself and Dressing to Put Others at Ease

It is not your job to  dress in a way that  makes everyone  in your social circle  feel completely  comfortable.

A few months ago, I met with a client who was working on several self-consciousness issues. She was a tall woman, and had to endure an endless stream of height-related commentary from friends and strangers alike. Her mother had instilled in her the belief that her ankles and feet were huge and unsightly, and was struggling to make peace with that. She loved fun clothes and dressing up, but lived in a community where folks attended just about every event from “night at the gym” to “night on the town” in the same casual, comfy duds. We talked at length about this last one, and she said, “I have one friend who I’ve never seen in anything but a fleece and jeans. I wouldn’t want to head to a girls night out in a frilly dress and make her feel uncomfortable.” read more

Originally posted 2013-02-18 06:32:24.

How to Train Yourself to Accessorize

How to train yourself to accessorize

Image courtesy Nordstrom

The vast majority of my style consult clients had great clothes and fabulous ideas for outfit assembly. The vast majority of my style consult clients also struggled with jewelry and accessories. I heard so many of them say, “Oh, I don’t really wear jewelry. I don’t even own any!” Only to haul out unworn and forgotten stashes of necklaces, bangles, and earrings. Others said, “I love scarves on other people, but just can’t figure them out for me.” A few scarf tie tutorials later, and they were back in the game. I spent a lot of time illustrating how jewelry and accessories make outfits feel more complete, finished, and polished. And then I tried to reinforce the importance of incorporating them into daily dressing rituals. read more

Originally posted 2013-02-08 06:26:08.