Monthly Archives: August 2019

Styling Tricky Accessories

Friends, you know that the phrase, “shouldn’t wear that” gets my dander up, right? It totally does. I believe that women should wear clothing that makes them feel gorgeous and happy, and that style rules should be applied on a case-by-case basis and, even then, merely as guidelines. Wear what you love, the rest will fall into place.

But I realize that it’s often easier for me to SAY that than for you to DO it.¬† With all the magazines and TV shows yammering at us that we shouldn’t wear certain items if we’re shaped a certain way, and how some garments and accessories are “tricky” to pull off, it becomes difficult to maintain confidence. After all, these folks are experts, right? read more

Originally posted 2011-07-29 06:24:12.

Shopping for Your Imaginary Self

shopping for your imaginary self

This sequined butterfly blouse has been in my Etsy faves for AGES. It’s only $30 and I absolutely adore it. But I haven’t purchased it for two very important reasons:

1. I cannot imagine a place/event/reason that would allow me to wear it.

2. It is not suited to my actual style, but instead to my imaginary style.

Now, I will occasionally indulge my imaginary self and buy something that has no real place in my wardrobe. And those pieces may work their way into common use, and blend, and sometimes my style bends a bit to accommodate them. But generally speaking, I find that buying clothes for the person I wish I was – or, even worse, the person I wish I was SHAPED LIKE – is a fabulous way to generate buyers’ remorse. read more

Originally posted 2009-09-01 06:02:00.

How to Dress Joyously

Dressing can be a chore. If you’re grappling with body image woes, work in a critical or intolerant environment, or are dealing with chronic pain, peering into your closet each morning may prompt more anxiety than elation. But I firmly believe that striving to dress joyously is a worthwhile endeavor. For all of us. Because we’ve all got to wear clothes every day, and the clothes we choose broadcast information about us to the observing world. And because the clothes we choose can be protective or celebratory or expressive or soothing, and what we wear can change the path we take for the day. read more

Originally posted 2011-06-06 06:13:32.