Monthly Archives: January 2020

Body Image Mantras for Doubters

I have a background in New Agey-ness. Honest. I worked at a metaphysical book publisher for years, and I did so because I’m a double Capricorn with Taurus rising and am quite sure that information has real bearing on my life path. I have experienced the power of visualization, seen spells work, and received practical, helpful advice from Tarot readings. I don’t just want to believe, I actually do. In more cases than not.

But there’s a certain segment of self-help, New Age, advice-y stuff that makes me go, “Eh.” And for years, that included mantras. I talk a lot and write even more, so you’d think that I’d GET how powerful words can be. Especially in repetition. But I didn’t. Until I hit a wall in my own body image work and started reciting a few on my own. And they worked. read more

Originally posted 2012-05-14 06:19:55.

Reader Request: Dressing for Cold Offices

clothes for cold office

rb threw this one into the Suggestion Box:

Dressing for really cold offices but still looking professional? Colleagues have resorted to fingerless gloves and even snuggies. 

Why is it that office environments are always places of temperature extremes? A handful get uncomfortably hot in winter, but more are chilly during the cold months AND the warm ones. And in my experience, cold offices seem EVEN COLDER during the summer. It’s like any building with an imbalanced HVAC system just gives up and turns its dials to “arctic” once the sun comes out. I’m sure you office workers are all too familiar with air conditioners that get cranked up to levels capable of crystallizing saliva. Although the sun may graciously warm those lucky enough to sit near windows, many of the world’s cube farmers spend their days shivering as they type.* read more

Originally posted 2012-07-18 06:22:52.

Clothing Commentary

style comments

Oh, how I love this skirt. It’s romantic yet funky, playful yet sophisticated, and ever so fun to wear. It’s also, in essence, a grown-up version of a tutu. And whenever I wore it to the office, whenever I wear it now, it draws lots of comments. Lots of curiosity. It’s an attention-grabber, and causes people to come out of the woodwork to share their thoughts.

And no one has ever said anything nasty about it. Not directly to me, anyway. And I’m able to field whatever questions and opinions get thrown at me, no problem. But I’ve had years of practice and given it loads of thought. And several readers have mentioned that they love the idea of dressing smartly and stylishly, but worry about how peers will react. Specifically how often peers may comment upon or question any noticeable changes in personal style. So I thought I’d offer up a few suggestions for dealing with clothing and style commentary from your peer group. read more

Originally posted 2012-04-30 06:16:37.