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Hi folks. As you can see, the blog is still up, the entire archive is available to read, and an archived post will still pop up on the homepage every day (and drop into your inbox, if you’ve subscribed via email). In light of current events, it felt absurd to keep posting about archived content on Facebook and elsewhere, so I stopped doing that months ago. However, if you need a break from the news, Already Pretty is still there for ya.

If you’re wondering why only archived posts are showing, here’s what I wrote back in 2017 about my decision to step back but keep the archive available. read more

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Reader Request: Combating Wardrobe Boredom

bored with my clothes

Lady Harriet popped this one into the suggestion box:

I guess what I’m really looking for are no-cost ways to combat boredom and frustration with a very imperfect wardrobe, especially after major life changes (in my case it’s graduation, moving back home to a very different climate, and unemployment, but it could apply to a lot of different situations.)

Many of Lady Harriet’s questions may be answered by these posts:

But since wardrobe boredom is extremely common, and since it may happen to any number of women for any number of reasons, I promised her I’d cook up a few more ideas. So here we go.

Study color theory

This is rich, coming from me. I’ve never been interested in color theory, and find discussions of it to be simultaneously confusing and boring. So I guess what I’m REALLY saying is this: Find some way to consider colors differently. For many, a structured system like formal color theory is a fantastic place to start, and this post from Color Matters is very helpful. And if that set of rules chafes at you (as it does at me), find a different way. Study color combos in patterned garments, accessories, and textiles. Note color pairings in nature. Take whatever colorful inspiration you can find, and apply it to your own wardrobe and outfits.

Give yourself assignments

Remixing a capsule of 30 items or less is a pretty standard way to experiment with your own creativity, but you could even go further. Wear only black and white for a week. Style outfits around a single pair of shoes for a week. Add at least one romantic embellishment to every outfit for two weeks. Make a list of your favorite literary characters and create outfits inspired by each of them. Allow your roommate, significant other, or child to pick an item for you to wear each day, and craft your outfit around it. Challenge yourself, push your creativity, and do it without buying anything new.

Get help

The vast majority of clients I work with have loads of clothes, all of them easily remixable. But it can take an outside observer to see and suggest new combinations. If you bought that sweater to go with those pants, you may never be able to imagine them with any other pants, or skirts, or thrown over certain dresses. So grab a trusted friend or sister or mom or coworker, spring for pizza for your both, and host a little outfit planning session. Allow your helper to pick out outfits for you, and try them on no matter how wary you may feel. Without fail, your helper will suggest some combinations you’d NEVER have tried on your own.

Image courtesy katykash.

Originally posted 2012-06-04 06:34:54.

The Unfortunate Universals

fat shaming skinny shaming

There is a lot of fat fear floating around in the world right now. A LOT. That fear generates bullying, prejudice, policing, and judgment from sources both expected and unexpected, and it is a fear that is both socially sanctioned and systemically encouraged. Since I don’t believe that weight is the sole factor in determining health, and since I believe that the health of others is none of my business, I write and speak out frequently about the issues surrounding fat fear and hatred.

It was recently brought to my attention that I don’t spend much time examining the other side of the coin. Fat girls get teased, told they need to go on diets, inundated with hurtful comments about their shape and size. Skinny girls also get teased, told they’ve got eating disorders, inundated with hurtful comments about their shape and size. The world loves to criticize big bodies, and the eagerness to do so seems to be very much on the rise. But the world can be pretty keen to wag fingers at little bodies, too. Think about how many “she needs a sandwich” comments you’ve heard in the past few weeks. Contemplate how dismissive the “real women have curves” rhetoric could feel to someone who lacks those curves. Consider how quickly people jump to judgment upon seeing a prominent collarbone or set of slender arms. Women who are naturally thin can become targets for brutal body snarking, as The Waves described in her guest post on what it’s like to be a model. And while certain thin bodies receive social privileges, there is often an undercurrent of anger and judgment even as those privileges are doled out. read more

Originally posted 2012-07-23 06:47:09.