Already Prettypoll: I Love This Part

Inspiration here: I love this part – we’ll say it about bits of our favorite songs. Why can’t we say it about our bodies?

Good question, right? Even now, when general, vague body love is becoming slightly more acceptable, expressing pride or love for specific aspects of our bodies remains taboo. It sounds like bragging, and bragging is THE WORST, apparently.

Since it’s actually not, I’m hoping to spawn a little brag fest right here and now: What aspects of your body do you LOVE and want to celebrate? Do you have a strong back that helps you lift and cradle your kids? Do you have amazing freckles that illuminate your complexion? Do you have big, bold, kinky hair that makes you swell with pride? All of the above? Something else entirely?

I’ll get the party started: After years of hating it, I absolutely adore my hair. In its current configuration it is like a living topiary that I can shape and mould with some product, some heat, and my fingers. It’s wild, and for the first time ever I love its wildness.

It took me a while to realize it, but I actually have fairly long legs. What I’ve known for ages is that they’re incredibly strong and can carry me through long, trying days of walking and working and hustling. I love my legs.

I love the bit of my trapezius that slopes from my neck into my shoulder. It makes me feel tough and sexy all at once.

And you? Tell us all about the parts you love.

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19 Responses to “Already Prettypoll: I Love This Part”

  1. Yamikuronue

    I used to love my legs for being so strong, but lately I’ve been having a lot of problems with them 🙁

    So instead, I love my eyebrows. I’ve never done anything to them; they have a nice shape naturally, and they make my eyes more striking. They give me a nice sarcastic “Isn’t life great” expression when I’m feeling hard pressed to smile 😀

    Speaking of smiling, my cheeks are pretty cute when I smile 🙂 And I love how dark my skin gets, it’s pretty in contrast to my bright-colored jewelry.

  2. bubu2

    What is funny to me is that the parts I love now were the things I thought were the most awful when I was a teenager: my hourglass frame (not cool in the grunge 90s), my full lips (never felt I could wear lipstick without looking like bozo), my fingers (always thought they were fat or something, but have realized they are actually longer and rather slender in proportion to the rest of my 5’3″ frame). All these things I can now embrace as feminine and attractive and part of me.

    • Sonja

      As another hourglass who has lived in the nineties, I hear you, sister. Being a curvy teenager in that decade was not easy

  3. poodletail

    I love my blue, blue eyes. When I look in the mirror at my eyes I see my dad, my grandma, my auntie, and all of my great-aunties.

  4. Loren Slaymaker

    Many of the body parts that I love, I love in part because I share them with family. My Aunt Ren’s long arms, my Granny’s delicate wrists/ankles, my father’s hazel eyes, and the strange little divot in my abdomen that I share with my mom. Other things, like my pale complexion and the freckles on my left shoulder, are mine alone.

    • Kate K

      In the past, I really, really disliked my legs: my thighs were too fat, my calves were too big, and my ankles weren’t thin enough. I’m much more confident now, and part of that was going camping and swimming with my female cousins and aunts one summer and realizing that we all have the same legs. They’re big strong country legs, good for carrying around babies and walking through farm fields. My grandma’s been gone for many years, but it’s nice still seeing that part of her everyday.

    • loubeelou

      There could be a whole post on this! I agree that observing some of my more “unique” features in my relatives has been a very grounding thing – seeing the beauty of those features in others helps to see that in myself.

  5. Sonja

    If I had to pick just one, it would be my strong, broad back, that I have inherited from my mother (the same as my sister). I’ve a feminine figure with the shoulders of a quarterback, and I love to show them off with halter and strapless tops. So sexy!

  6. Roberta Johnson

    I also like my eyebrows. They would go full-on caterpillar if I let them. In the age of Cara Delevigne, that is a good thing. And I’ve always been blessed with clear skin 98% of the time. That was a big deal when I was in high school.

  7. Widdershins

    Oh yay! I actually really like my body and always have, but don’t mention that much because, well, that’s not really a done thing, is it.

    I love being fairly tall (5′ 8″), and I have really nice long legs. They’re slender and strong and I’m so grateful for them. I also quite like my boobs – they’re not as perky as they once were, but they still have a lovely full, feminine shape. I have a nice face – not gorgeous, necessarily, but attractive and open and expressive, I think. I also like my skin – I don’t have flawless pores or anything, but I never break out, and it’s quite forgiving and good to me, and I quite like my wrinkles and laugh lines and crow’s feet; I think they make me look kind. And I like my eyes a lot – think they’re quite pretty. Honestly, while there are certainly things about my body I’m not crazy about (stomach area, I’m looking at you), overall I LOVE my body. It is healthy and strong and works so hard for me – and is even attractive to boot. Yay for bodies!

  8. juliana

    I love my lips – they are full and expressive. I love my eyes – they can speak volumes. My skin is easy to care for and doesn’t need makeup. And my hands – they can reach out and comfort, are expressive, and are my primary way I do my job.

  9. crtfly

    Maybe you folks are more psychologically healthy and more enlightened than I am. I don’t know. I do know that this discussion is extremely uncomfortable for me. I suppose that in itself is telling.

    Chris

    • Dust. Wind. Bun.

      I didn’t want to be the one to say it 🙂

      Even though I strongly doubt any of these people mean it this way, I can’t not hear “I’m better than you” in all of these. I think that’s part of why I’m not inclined to declare liking for anything of mine – I don’t dislike any of my body, aside from the parts that are making my chronic illness happen, they can piss off, but I don’t think I’d …. hmmm. Thinking as I type! I guess I might say I like things about my body, but I don’t think I’d say WHY, if you see what I mean? Like, I like my hands, but I wouldn’t tell you why or what they look like, because I’d feel like I would be criticizing those that don’t look the same, like, if I like them for characteristic A, that implies that if your hands don’t have A, they have B instead, that I’m saying yours aren’t as good.

      Now obviously this isn’t really happening here – Sally wouldn’t stand for it, and people who would act like that wouldn’t want to come somewhere that is so very much about positivity – but that’s just pointing up how weird our perceptions get thanks to our weird society! The idea that there’s only one ideal, only one way for something or someone to be beautiful. I should know better – most of the celebrities and models etc I find most beautiful look nothing like me, and yet I don’t feel bad-in-comparison, just different – but it’s a hard mindset to shake.

  10. loubeelou

    I like my eye color, which seems to shift slightly depending on the color I’m wearing, especially gray. And I do love my ears, which are incredibly sensitive in the best way possible.

    It is a hard question though. I have more features I have grown to accept and sometimes embrace for their uniqueness, but I don’t necessarily outright celebrate them – and I’m OK with that. 🙂

  11. Allison

    I spent a lot of my life casually hating much of my body, and then got diagnosed with a really serious illness. I bear a lot more scars and marks than I used to, but I like just about everything now. I’ve always had an hourglass figure, even when I was much heavier. This made it easier to get interested in clothing as expression several years and forty pounds ago. I like my very square jaw, which I used to consider unfeminine. I sort of even like my modestly droopy left eye (muscle damage from surgery). It will make me look more interesting as I age, plus I can finally do the mysterious one-eyebrow lift. I like being short – 5’2″. Short women always seem to be regretful that they’re not taller, and I’ve never understood why.

  12. Lianne

    I like my wrists, especially the little bump of I forget what bone, I’m not really sure why. I like my hawk nose and my crooked smile, because they match how I feel a ‘me’ should look. One of my legs has stopped working properly, and my feelings about it have therefore become rather mixed, but in compensation I now have actual arm muscles, which I think is pretty cool. And even back muscles! I could probably do a pushup!!

  13. Victoria Young

    I have spent years struggling with a mental image of my body that doesn’t match the exterior (in my head sometimes I’m still carrying the 30 pounds I lost over 15 years ago), and even 4 years ago when I started reading your blog, Sally, I wouldn’t have been able to think of a single part of my body I even appreciated, much less liked or loved.

    20 years of major depression and long term illness/injury will do that, I guess.

    But as I get older, I see more of my mother in my facial expressions, which makes me like my rounded nose (just like hers), and I love my legs.

    I don’t love my legs for their shape (their 27 1/2″ inseam is difficult to clothe), but I ADORE them for the fact that in 9 days they’re going to take me on our second half marathon. They’re strong, and tattooed with images from my life, and carry me for a miles at a time, even when they don’t want to keep going. And for that? I HEART them.

    I love my wrongly-fused sacrum. It only partially fused, and after being diagnosed my doc told me to continue my PT for the rest of my life, which has spurred me into taking better care of myself, and for that, I love it. The pain is less, and the PT and meditation are helping in so many other ways that I’m glad I got diagnosed. It may be a mutation, but it’s mine and it’s helping me re-evaluate, and for that I love it.