Posts Categorized: body image

The Stats and the Story

Recently, I ordered a custom, hand-knit sweater from an Etsy vendor and she requested my measurements. I’ve really botched my measurements in the past, so I took a series of photos and drew some lines on my body in Photoshop with inch measurements so she’d know exactly how I was measuring my shoulder span and bustline, where from, and what it meant to me. I trashed those photos ages ago, unfortunately, but the exercise was an interesting one. And I wanted to re-create it here for a number of reasons, which I’ll explain shortly. read more

Originally posted 2011-10-31 06:03:55.

On Variety

Many of the messages we receive about bodies have to do with conforming. The current standards for physical female beauty are narrow and exclusionary, yet we are pressured to deprive, manipulate, and punish our bodies into fitting those narrow, exclusionary standards. We are told, “Be the same, or be wrong.” We are told, “Look this way, or be lesser-than.” We are told, “There’s no room for variation here, so do everything in your power to conform.”

But no two human beings are alike. Even identical twins, who have the same genes down to the last, have distinct personalities, needs, voices, desires, and ambitions … and frequently metabolize, tan, and take hair color differently from one another. That “unique snowflake” cliche exists for a reason: We’re all marvelously individual. And that marvelous individuality is what makes human life interesting. read more

Originally posted 2012-01-10 06:37:03.

Partner Conflicts Over Sartorial Choices

fighting with husband about clothes

It’s POSSIBLE that a certain husband dislikes this dress. Rather strongly. And said husband is generally spot-on when it comes to what works and what doesn’t for my style and body. But he’s also extremely open-minded. Often times he’ll hate something on first glance, but then compliment me when he sees it worn in the context of a fully styled outfit.¬† That’s what I expected to happen with this dress. I bought it in New York back in February, brought it home, showed it to him, and he didn’t like it. Trotted it out MONTHS later as part of this ensemble and felt smashing in it. I asked him if he’d changed his stance. Nope. Still dislikes it. read more

Originally posted 2011-10-18 06:02:08.