Posts Categorized: sexuality

Sex And The Trouble With Normal

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In regards to sex there’s one question I get a LOT. The specifics may vary a great deal from one person to the next but the gist of the query is the same:

Am I normal?

My answer will be different depending on the situation but my general opinion regarding sex, normalcy and whether the description applies to is more or less standard:

Nope. You’re not normal.

As far I as can tell there is no “normal” when it comes to sex. I have yet to learn of a sexual desire, appetite, aversion or practice that is truly universal or truly unique. To put it another way, not everyone is into the same sexual stuff as you. But whatever it is you are (or aren’t) into sexually, you aren’t the only one. So, no I don’t think you’re normal. I don’t think that I’m normal. When it comes to sex, I don’t even know what “normal” means. read more

A Lesson In Burlesque


Take it off! Take it (almost) all off!

It’s been over a year since I first took to the stage and peeled down to pasties in my first burlesque performance.   Over the past several years, the art of tease has experienced a renaissance and my fair city of Ottawa has not been immune. We have several troupes, dozens of performers and a non-stop rotation of showcases, revues and cabarets every month.

My early experiences with burlesque were as an enthusiastic fan. Sequins and feathers and breasts, oh my! Being beguiled by the lovely lads and ladies on stage was a sensual treat on my nights out but the more I saw, the less content I felt to sit in the audience and watch. I worked as an actor for over twenty years. The urge to perform still flows through my veins. So when one of my favourite troupes offered me a guest spot in their next show I accepted immediately. The next day I went shopping for sequined bras and double-sided tape. read more