Every time you turn around, it seems like someone is extolling the virtues of compliments. They’re good for your health! They build goodwill! They build confidence in both giver and recipient! All very true. (OK, not sure about the measurable health benefits, but there are probably some.) Still, doling out compliments can feel daunting. Where do you start? Who will be a willing recipient? What should you say?
Well in my opinion, you should:
- Start anywhere
- Assume everyone will be a willing recipient
- Say something genuine
That’s not specific enough? You’re still daunted? Right-o, here are some incredibly simple, training-wheel ideas to get you started:
Your ____ is gorgeous! (Hairdo, handbag, manicure)
I love your ____. (Shoes, eyeshadow, tattoo)
What a great _____! (Sweater, shade of lipstick, outfit)
I’m just sitting over here coveting your shoes. Don’t mind me.
That dress is phenomenal.
What a superb hat! And you wear it so well.
I have to ask: Where did you get that amazing coat?
I’m seriously considering stealing that scarf right offa you.
BEAUTIFUL BODY BITS
Just had to tell you that your skin is completely radiant.
You’ve got the most elegant posture!
I hope you don’t mind my saying so, but you’ve got a truly gorgeous smile.
I can’t get over your spectacular curls.
That color looks incredible on you.
I adore your haircut. So chic!
I just love how you tied your scarf.
That combination of pieces is simply marvelous.
I pretty much love everything about your outfit.
Give out one of these to a total stranger, one to an acquaintance, and one to a friend. Do it by next Friday or I will totally come knocking at your door to wag my finger at you. You think I kid.
Just remember: Compliments are among the most trackable forms of present-life karma. You’ve gotta give ’em out to get ’em. And eventually, giving and receiving will feel equally amazing.
Originally posted 2012-02-17 06:36:17.