Gracey on: High Heels

I wear a lot of high heels.  Yes, even at my height:

Fashion for Giants winter 2013 outfit featuring high heels.

And yes, it results in a lot of comments from the less tall.  Comments like these:

“Look, Mommy, it’s a giant.”

“How tall are you, anyway?”

“Do you really need high heels?”

“Hey there, girl, can I climb you?”


To which I say…

“Thanks, little kid!”

“Six foot, but I’m usually in heels.”

“No one needs high heels; they’re optional, like wearing jewelry or brushing your hair.”

“Ha ha ha ha ha.  No, dummy, you can’t.”


So, why, with all the comments and confusion it generates, do I wear high heels?  Well, for several reasons, actually.

 I’m Not That Tall

I guess I should say that I don’t consider myself to be that tall.  In part because I’ve never been made to feel like I was all that tall, even with all the comments.  I wasn’t the tallest girl in my school, much less in my class.  I’ve always had friends and teammates that were my height or taller and I had a taller older sister.  And today, women are taller than ever, so being six foot is nothing.

For example, Brittney Griner of Baylor is 6’8”:

Brittany Griner, Baylor University Center at the WNBA Draft.

Olympic Gold Medalist (shot put) Valerie Adams is 6’4″:

Valerie Adams. Olympic Gold Medalist for the shot put from New Zealand.

And Brienne of Tarth is also 6’4”:

Game of Thrones Brienne of Tarth.

So, you see, six foot really isn’t that tall.  But, it should be noted that, even if I were taller, I’d probably still wear heels based on the next section.

Woman’s Intuition

I am a very intuitive dresser.  I don’t often plan my outfits, instead, I tend to just feel my way through my closet, putting things together that my gut tells me I should.  This includes the shoes that I wear.  I think that we can all agree that the addition of a heel can completely change the look and feel of an outfit.  Well, there are certain days when my intuition tells me that I want the look and feel that a high heel brings to an outfit and on those days, I wear heels.


I like the way that high heels make my legs look.   This does not mean that I don’t like my legs and have to wear high heels to feel good about them.  I love my legs.  I love that they’re big and strong from years of running track and biking to work.  I love them in flats, but I also love them in heels.


High heels are fun.  I guess that flats can be fun as well, but they’re also so darned practical.  Practicality is not high on my list of personality traits to have.  There is nothing wrong with practicality and even I’m practical sometimes, but, as Cyndi says, sometimes girls just wanna have fun.

Prada Car Shoes

Kate Spade New York Dabney via PiperlimeCharlotte Olympia Sculptured Heels

See?  Fun.  I mean, really, how could you not smile when wearing any of those?


Of course, no shoe is fun when you’re uncomfortable in them and I know that some women cannot wear a shoe with a heel of any sort without discomfort.  I’m lucky that I can and I’m also lucky that the industry has made a lot of progress in creating comfortable high heel shoes that are also stylish.  Even still, there are some things I suggest for heel wearers:

Don’t try wearing a heel height you can’t walk in; just because the market is saturated with six inch heels doesn’t mean you have to wear them.  There is no shame is keeping your heel height to three inches or lower.

Make sure the toe box is comfortable; heels push your toes forward so make sure there is no pinching or squeezing or you won’t make it through the day.

Invest in magical insoles.  I wear these Superfeet  insoles (via Nordstrom; you can get them here) in all of my heels and they are brilliant:

Superfeet Delux High Heel Insoles

And, possibly magic.  I don’t know why they work, being as they’re made of hard plastic, but they do.  Somehow they lift your foot up to relieve pressure on the ball of your foot.  They don’t work as well with platforms, but I otherwise recommend them for everything over an inch.

How about you, Reader Friends?  Do you wear high heels?  Why or why not?



Brittney Griner image via Getty Images
Valerie Adams image via
Brienne of Tarth image via
Prada shoes image via
Kate Spade New York Wedges image via
Charlotte Olympia Sculptured Heels image via

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Already Pretty contributor Gracey hails from from Fashion for Giants. She’s essentially your average blogger, except that she’s taller than average (six foot) and bigger than average (size 14). She also likes to think that she’s more amusing than average, but that could just be vanity. In addition to being tall and plus-sized (and possibly hilarious), she’s also a thrift store shopper, a vintage lover, an Oregonian, and a bike commuter.

Likes: Gracey likes to shop, to blog, and to terrify her co-workers with brightly colored outfits.

Dislikes: Robot uprisings, too-short skirts, and leggings as pants.

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26 Responses to “Gracey on: High Heels”

  1. Ry

    I’m 5’11” and I wear heels to work more often than not. I always get comments on how I’m too tall to wear heels and that I “tower” over everyone. I don’t care anymore. 🙂 I like them, they make my legs look fantastic and they make my outfits more sophisticated (flats make me appear dumpy, in my opinion, at least with work attire).

    Rock that height, girl!

  2. Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

    Love this, Gracey – that you are comfortable with and proud of your height, and have some fab sassy answers at the ready too! : > And thanks for the tip off to Superfeet insoles, I’m going to try them.

  3. Brenna

    I would love to wear heels more, but I am super practical, and heels just hurt my feet. And I don’t wear shoes that hurt, period. So I have a couple of pairs of 2 inch heels that I’ll wear pretty regularly, but that’s about it.

  4. Linda L

    Hi Gracey – I agree, wearing heels has nothing to do with trying or needing to look taller. They’re pretty, they’re fun, they make the legs look great, and sometimes the outfit just needs that certain shoe. Not that people can’t look fabulous in flats – they certainly can and do. I love all kinds shoes from oxfords and ballet flats to 5 inch heels and wedges. I have strong legs and feet from years of running so fortunately I can handle most heels (it also helps that I have a desk job).

  5. Susan

    I’ve never understood why some people think that tall people should not wear heels. To me, it is an insulting comment. Being tall is a GOOD thing–and heels are something that many women wear. Why should tall people not wear them?

  6. mo

    Love, love, love heels. I’m just barely 5′ tall, so peanut gallery comments usu. run the direction of “Oh, trying to get a little height?” I’ve been the family’s tomboy (still am), but now find that my taste runs to heels more often than simply functional shoes.

  7. A.B.

    If I wear heels (and that is a huge if) they are under 2 inches. I just can’t walk in anything higher than that because I have really weak ankles and injuring myself is no fun. I’m an “average height” for a female. With all the walking around I do on any given day, comfort comes first. Heels don’t cut it for my lifestyle.

  8. Anneesha

    I am tall-ish with a small-ish partner, but he prefers to be towered over as long as there’s a good-looking shoe causing it. I was afraid I had to give up heels due to knee and foot pain – but found that wearing a stable “block” heel got rid of the problem. It wasn’t height of heel – it was the wobbling of a stiletto or kitten heel or anything that didn’t provide a solid foundation. I’m seeing some highly fashionable block heels coming out of the designers, so maybe they will trickle down to DSW/Marshalls/etc soon!

    Thanks for the post Gracey! You go, girl.

  9. Monica H

    I’m also on the tall side (5’9″) and just yesterday one of my guy friends asked why I wear heels since I’m already so tall. I told him “because they look hot” which he couldn’t argue with. 🙂 People ask me if it’s an issue that I’m taller than my husband when I wear heels, as he’s 5’11”. I tell them that we met online dating, and I even put in my profile that I’m tall and love to wear heels, so he was prepared from the beginning!

    With most of my work outfits, flats just look frumpy to me. Also I find most flats too darned flat and totally lacking in any support for my foot. I can wear heels fine, but I know they aren’t good for my feet in the long run, so I try to limit to 2-3 days per week max. I do agree with Aneesha that having a wider heel is important for me, and having a platform also helps to stury them and make them easier to walk in. I’m still searching for the ‘just right’ pair of comfortable dressy-ish shoes that aren’t high heels, but until I find them, heels it is!

  10. Aya

    People should no more tell a tall person s/he should not wear heels than tell me I *should* wear heels because I am short 😀

    I do enjoy a good low block heel, though. One thing I also like is the gel pads that you can put under the ball of your foot to relieve repeated impact.

  11. Leiah

    Funny how everyone says you gotta wear heels because they “make you look taller”, but then when you’re over some (unspecified) height limit, you’re “too tall” to wear heels? Boo!

    I love that you own it. Nobody should be able to police your shoe choice! 🙂

  12. Taina

    Aya is right, people shouldn’t be saying tall women shouldn’t wear high heels but short women should. We should all just wear whatever height shoes we want to and do it proudly.
    I’m 5″1′ and wear mostly flats just for comfort but i do have heels that I love.

  13. Olivia

    I played around with heels a little in my early 20s, but they always hurt*. Now I wear only flats, and often “ugly” supportive ones at that. I’m unable to look at any heel over 1″ without thinking about how it will hurt my feet, lol.

    *I have arthritis in one of my feet so, sadly, it’s not just about discomfort for a day anymore. I really need to choose shoes that will take care of my feet.

  14. shebolt

    Superfeet for heels!?! How is it that I’ve never heard of these until now?

    But seriously, I love seeing tall women wearing heels almost as much as I love seeing short women wearing flats.

  15. Jasmine

    Wow, I love this! I love wearing high heels and my friends that don’t wear high heels often, question why I wear them. I’m not even tall, but some just don’t understand that I love wearing heels whether I’m going to the mall, to the bar or to church. They make me feel confident and sexy, so why wouldn’t I want to wear them.

  16. Cas

    I’m on the taller side and I love seeing taller ladies in heels! I swear every time I see a taller lady wearing them I’m always yelling at them in my “bring it!”

    When I was younger I hated being tall but I’ve learned to fully embrace it. I cannot handle wearing anything over two inches because besides height I was bestowed with some awesome lack of grace. Maybe that’s why you’re so good at wearing them… 😉

  17. Osprey

    What a thoughtful post! You look great in all these pics. I love comfy flat shoes but my outfits suffer because of this, so I have been trying to branch out. I’d like to see a wider range of 1-2 inch stacked heels and wedges. The average woman does not wear sky high stilettos all the time, so why are they overrepresented in retail?


    People make the strangest comments! I wouldn’t even both commenting back with anything but a smile. You look great in heels. By the way, I’m only 5’2″, and I never wear heels for the sake of appearing taller; I wear them because I want to.

  19. Deborah

    You look great in heels! I’m not as tall as you are (5’9) but I love wearing heels when I’m out and about (I also love flats). Heels make me feel both powerful and graceful. I find that 3″ is my most comfortable height for walking in — tall enough that I’m more conscious of my posture (a good thing) but not so tall that it really changes my center of gravity. Once I get to 4″ I truly have to walk differently because it’s high enough that my ankles don’t flex and I have to put my weight on a completely different part of my foot and that takes more concentration than I usually feel like taking on. But I have some beautiful 4″ heels and on some days it’s just worth it! ;} I absolutely love seeing tall women in high heels.

  20. Litenarata

    Comparing yourself to extreme female height outliers does not mean you aren’t tall. You ARE tall, you are pretty good distance above the average for a woman. It’s okay, really.

    Anyway, people who comment on tall women wearing heels are just twits. People who tell us short people to wear heels to be taller are twits too. We are the height we are and there’s nothing wrong with it, whether it’s short or tall!

  21. Mary

    I have found, like others, that type of heel rather than height is the culprit of shoe pain. A wedge, a cone heel, even something with a platform, will be far better for me to spend an evening (or day) in than anything with a stiletto or even kitten heel.
    And go you, Gracey, for wearing what you love!

  22. Max Rose

    i love heels! they just make me feel more put together and all around sassier. plus, my boyfriend is more than six inches taller than i am, so sometimes it’s nice to just be able to look him the eye without having to crane my neck! it also makes slow dancing a weddings A LOT easier! 🙂

    <3 max.
    petticoats & pantalones

  23. chris eret

    I am a 63 yr old woman, with issues with my legs. I have worn heels before and I do like the femininity of it, I can’t wear them. I also have big feet, am 5’8″ and weigh in at 200 lbs. My legs aren’t as strong as it was when I was younger, but I get by by wearing sensible shoes. My daughter wears them when she can. She wore a very high heeled wedge to her graduation and I hoped that she would get through her graduation without breaking her ankle. She still manages to wear them for all occasions, and had some pretty nice pumps, weggies and boots. I am still looking for fashionable low-heeled shoes.
    I do go thrifting, and will for the rest of my life. Been thrifting most of my life, as well as getting hand-me-downs from family and friends. Have a lot of my mom’s old jewelry and I continue to collect vintage pieces to add to my collection.

  24. Paola

    I’m tallish (5’10”) and mostly wear flat shoes because I like to walk fast and need to stand a lot. I also find that if I wear heels, I often can’t hear conversations in groups, which seem to be going on at my chest level. Maybe I’m a bit deaf!
    Still, I break out the heels for dressy occasions. I like the look of my legs in heels, but often can’t wait to get them off so I can scoot around fast.

  25. Julie

    I see tons of heels I would love to wear because they look so cute, but apparently I have bad luck with my feet hurting. I can’t help but wonder, how in the world do women wear high heels and not have pain? Do you just get used to it, or is there some special magic that makes heels tolerable? I really wish I knew the secret.