Lovely Links: 11/1/13

A few slots remain for my community ed classes! Dressing Your Best will take place on November 4 in Cottage Grove and November 13 in Champlin. Sign up today!

My book is on sale over at Amazon for $13.99, and you can take a peek inside, too!

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From my favorite read of the week: “Why do poor people make stupid, illogical decisions to buy status symbols? For the same reason all but only the most wealthy buy status symbols, I suppose. We want to belong. And, not just for the psychic rewards, but belonging to one group at the right time can mean the difference between unemployment and employment, a good job as opposed to a bad job, housing or a shelter, and so on. Someone mentioned on twitter that poor people can be presentable with affordable options from Kmart. But the issue is not about being presentable. Presentable is the bare minimum of social civility. It means being clean, not smelling, wearing shirts and shoes for service and the like. Presentable as a sufficient condition for gainful, dignified work or successful social interactions is a privilege. It’s the aging white hippie who can cut the ponytail of his youthful rebellion and walk into senior management while aging black panthers can never completely outrun the effects of stigmatization against which they were courting a revolution. Presentable is relative and, like life, it ain’t fair.” (Thanks, Livia.)

Also a fascinating response to the above from a white male freelance writer. (Thanks, Roberta.)

From my second favorite read of the week: “But there was something exquisite in the deflating realization that despite all the effort and dramatic change, so much stayed exactly the same. I am still a self-conscious, serious girl. My eyebrows still feature prominently on my face. And goddammit, will I ever feel graceful in this body?

Nadine and The Bean had a talk about gender. It was hilarious.

Oh hell yes: Let’s bring back press-on nails!

Lisa works some gorgeous and subtle metallics into her outfit. Also love Sydne’s mixed metals look.

“I joined a growing cadre of women who regularly shop at Eileen Fisher and form a kind of cult of the interestingly plain.”

Fifteen kinds of yes to black, emerald and leopard. This outfit is magnificent, as is the radiant woman wearing it.

Here’s a super secret tip for nabbing amazing deals at Nordstrom Rack – and all you have to do is ask!

This slideshow featuring various ways to style a long pixie cut has got my wheels turning.

To realise that there was a nose better than the one I had been born with upended a lot of my feelings about my appearance, things I thought I knew about myself and my body.”

Stacy pairs her handknit cardigan with a cozy cowlneck dress. And just so we’re clear, she knit the sweater herself.

Designer Rebecca Minkoff (one of my own handbag faves) is being fined over the state of her messy office. Yikes.

Check out this tutorial for fabric and marble necklaces. Such a great and affordable gift idea. (Via Dollar Store Crafts)

How many big cats can you pile into one outfit? Gracey cuts it off at two.

I’ve had my eye on this faux leather pleated skirt for ages. And I adore how Tanesha has styled it.

I hate to say it, but am acutely aware that winter is just around the corner. This post offers some great suggestions for making winter both stylish and emotionally bearable.

The print on this form-fitting midi dress is absolutely mesmerizing.

“Women in particular are told over and again that our worth is based on how we look. We are supposed to spend time, money, and effort on being beautiful and attractive (presumably to men). I discovered that looking good just isn’t as important as it is made out to be. Feeding my baby, being healthy, feeling great, being intimate with my husband, being productive, and having more time and money are all significantly more important than how I look.”

Behold the glory that is Abcence, a shoe line as arty and gorgeous as they come. Commence drooling.

Beth’s casual-chic style blows me away every time. This outfit includes a riding blazer, distressed jeans, and gorgeous gray accents.

Thanks to the Institute for the Psychology of Eating for including me in their Top 100 Best Women’s Empowerment Websites list!

This rocker chic ensemble hits me right where I live.

“I refuse to feel shame about my body, and I refuse to sit back whilst shame about their bodies is hoisted upon my children. Part of the shame, or at least embarrassment, is probably because so much in terms of bodies’ form and function is shrouded in ‘YOU DON’T TALK ABOUT THESE THINGS’.”

What a fun and funky way to style an oversized sweater.

And from the Department of Random: Madame Sunday makes me feel less alone in my holiday-related Grinch-i-tude. (Lots and lots of swearing in this post. Bless.)

Additionally: This gorgeous song has been in my head for weeks, and I’m delighted to find that the video is magical. “Talk Me Down” by Willy Mason.

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7 Responses to “Lovely Links: 11/1/13”

  1. julie

    thanks so much for the first two links. i have thought extensively about this issue for a few years now, and there are so many layers to it! i have presented at a conference with a colleague, “privilege is like smoke” and just recently in a group of professionals in a learning setting, one of the most privileged openly talked about how one dresses and their appearance is quite important to other’s perceptions about their capabilities. i have learned to always wear good shoes and dress more carefully. i remember doing an experiment with my children once when they were young, i dressed my two girls in jeans and sweatshirts and running shoes and we went to the playground and then grocery shopping, lots of scowls and cranky stares from other shoppers when they inevitably made noise (they were toddlers!) and then the next week, i put on flowery dresses, white mary janes and bows in their hair, and the other customers went out of their way to compliment their appearance and behaviour (even when being noisy and rambunctious)
    As a member of a minority, i feel the pressure to not conform with the negative stereotypes about indigenous people, and can only dress extremely casually in a small amount of circumstances.
    lucky i love clothes, shoes, make up and accessories.