Lovely Links: 12/2/16

If you’ve been waiting for me to say something about the U.S. election, here it is: I don’t know what to say. I also don’t know what to do. In a time when unity and acceptance are more important than ever, I see angry people yelling at each other about doing ally-ship wrong. In a time when many are struggling to listen and help and be supportive, I am reading frustrated backlash over misguided, useless, or hollow actions. In a time when any gesture of solidarity should be welcomed, I’ve seen more vehement privilege call-outs than ever before. And as a deeply privileged person – white, cis, able-bodied, more – I feel completely frozen. Useless. Fully aware that those call-outs have merit and register important views, but also aware that my desire to do what’s most right and most helpful means that I cannot find any statement to make or action to take that someone somewhere hasn’t already deemed inadequate, insulting, or downright counterproductive. Maybe I’m reading the wrong websites or listening to the wrong radio stations, but I feel like much of the current post-election rhetoric is corrective instead of collaborative.

So I have taken small actions that I hope may have larger repercussions down the line. I have set up monthly donations to trusted organizations who fight civil rights battles through our legal system. I have educated myself about street harassment and ways to safely intervene, and reminded myself about how to tell someone they sound racist. I have recommitted myself to supporting my fellow women through LOTT and the MFBT, and to calling my representatives regularly. And I am constantly thinking and reading and absorbing and hoping that eventually some course of more overt, far-reaching, high-impact action will emerge from the turmoil and despair in my heart and mind.

Weekly Kitty:


She wears the sheet like a cape. She LOVES doing this.

I’m still a little obsessed with black lace, so I loved seeing Ragini in her stunning lace frock.

Reflections on the Meaning of Red in Art, Fashion and Film (via Accidental Icon)

Blogger Mama Cáx chronicles her travel, style, and journey as a woman who lost her right leg after winning a battle with bone and lung cancer. (Also find her on Instagram.)

I’ve finally admitted that one of my go-to pairs of lounge joggers has bitten the dust, and am considering these Everlane street fleece pants as a replacement.

“It’s a kind of doublethink, this hatred. In one sense, you must be dutifully grateful for your body, glad it can walk and move and eat without tubal assistance. Because you birthed your children, you must be happy you had the strength to bear them. But you hate it, all the same. You see it constantly through the eyes of others: through the media’s, through a starlet’s, through your earlier self’s. You see it and the words rise up, unbidden – fat. Ugly. Jiggly. Huge. Sag. Bulge. Ugly words, short words, words heavy in u’s and g’s. You would never apply these words to someone else. You would never call another person your weight ugly. But standards differ for the self.

Ashi is stunning in her teal jumpsuit. Love the cross-over waist detail.

Looking for sustainable party attire? Nordstrom is carrying a line called Dress the Population that has some spectacularly sequined frocks and jumpsuits! All made in the U.S.A.

On GoDaddy Garage I wrote about the value of buying direct from artisans (as opposed to buying through Etsy/DaWanda and similar).

US Olympic fencing athlete Ibtihaj Muhammad talks about why she’s proud to wear hr Hijab while representing her country.

Liz responds to the #bodygoals hashtag with #IAmMyOwnBodyGoals. Love her thoughts and reactions to a tag that might seem harmless but gently nudges us toward dissatisfaction. (Not safe for work viewing.)

Amber rocks a long suede vest with a cute striped dress. Such a great combo. Also love Sheryl’s long vest-leather pant outfit.

Even on the days you’ve made a mistake, or hurt someone, or otherwise messed up and caused yourself to doubt whether or not you like you, it’s still imperative that you love yourself. Because everyone has beauty to offer, and everyone deserves love, and yes — that includes you.”

Petite-only brands are rare these days, but Kelly is pleased with her Petite Studio pinstripe pants and has high hopes for the line.

I’m lusting after this organic cotton cowl-neck tunic. That ruched side detail is such fun.

Getty Images Launches Initiative To Change Visual Representation Of Female Athletes In Media

“A frequent Spike Lee collaborator, [costume designer Ruth E. Carter] designed a significant part of my childhood. Halle Berry’s gold teeth and orange jumpsuit in B*A*P*S, the blond high-tops on the gangs in The Meteor Man, and that black trench coat that embodied the 1970s cool of Shaft in 2000 are all crystallized images, firmly embedded in my memories of growing up in the ’90s and early aughts…. Ruth has created costumes for nearly every type of protest, movement, and rebellion in black American history. She’s dressed revolting and runaway slaves, anti-lynching leaders, civil-rights icons, and gun-control activists, just to name a few.”

Slippers and soled knit booties are my working-from-home go-tos, so I was thrilled to see this roundup of the five most comfortable slipper styles for women from Barking Dog Shoes.

And speaking of my loungewear subset, I’m awfully tempted to add this made-in-the-U.S. studded hoodie to my capsule.

In my most recent Star Tribune column, I wrote about where to shop for androgynous clothes (building on this week’s post), which shoes to wear with slim pants, and more!

Cassie loads on the pretty pastels and bold textures in this lovely layered outfit.

As winter looms, I’m stockpiling pins in my Layering Inspiration board.

This duster-length sustainably made twist cardigan is a great option for anyone seeking shaped or fitted outer layers.

Imogen shares a few of her favorite clothing lines that suit large-busted figures – many of them ship all over the world!

Lisa’s refined boucle duster is offset by edgy distressed jeans. Also love Annette’s sheer duster and leather legging outfit.

On the recommendation of AP contributor Kristine, I ordered a tube of this Tarte concealer. Hoping it’s as amazing as she says, since it’s far cheaper than my current concealer!

When I ask my mother why my hair is so curly, she answers: ‘Because it was made to mirror my own’. When I ask her why hers is curly, she laughs, and tells me that she doesn’t know. She recently visited my grandfather’s birthplace, a village near the outskirts of ‘La Selva’: the Peruvian rainforest that makes up half of my homeland. There she met my grandfather’s family, I lived this through her pictures, laughing at videos of the local parade and my aunties’ dancing. If I am a mountain, my hair is a forest.”

And from the Department of Random: Have I shared this one already? I don’t even care. It love it so damned much.

**Disclosure: Actions you take from the hyperlinks within this blog post may yield commissions for See Already Pretty’s disclosure statement for more details. Sustainable options are either used, handmade, made in the U.S., artisan made in non-sweatshop conditions, or made using sustainable/fair trade practices.

Next Post
Previous Post

2 Responses to “Lovely Links: 12/2/16”

  1. Zaianya

    THANK YOU for the opening. I have felt exactly the same, and this is the first time I’ve seen my sentiments echoed anywhere–perhaps I, too, am reading the wrong websites.

    But at least this has affirmed that I’m not crazy or completely alone in my thinking.

  2. marsha_calhoun

    You are not alone in your confusion and feelings of not knowing what to do (isn’t there an old toast, “Confusion to our enemies”?). So many of us feel the same. And I find it heartening that in the face of this, you too are able to choose to support trusted organizations, and to commit to continuously educating yourself and acting on what you have learned through consistently communicating with your representatives. The learning curve is real, but I really think that those who choose to undertake it will have an increasingly strong effect on society at large.

    We have been shaken out of complacency, which is perhaps a tiny silver lining that will pay off in the future. My own resolution has to do with increasing my skepticism of any source of information (that is, taking the time to check facts), and of opening my mind to ideas that I just plain haven’t been listening to. It is so enticing to believe that those with whom we disagree politically have some kind of monopoly on gullibility, but I will repeat: we all suffer (and must struggle against) these barriers to being factually informed: limited time to devote to research and verification, a perceived need to “skim” things in order to keep up with all the information that bombards us, and the tendency to choose to believe that which aligns with what you already believe. It is very hard, but I think more and more that it is imperative that we do so, and speak out whenever we are played falsely.