Lovely Links: 4/23/10

Check out this fascinating dialogue on the ramifications of body piercings in academia, from the perspective of two doctoral candidates who teach.

Well, CK, size 2 to 4 is an improvement. Here’s hoping you’ll push that envelope a leetle beet further … (Cheers, Cal, for the link.)

How do you teach kids to eat healthy without giving them a weight complex?

I am completely enamored of Joie’s style. And her musical taste – I was SURE I was the only one who knew “Paint the Moon” by Czars.

Care to join the Boobquake? Find out what sparked this intentional immodesty here.

What happens to clothing that gets donated to thrift stores and charity shops, but doesn’t sell? Find out how Goodwill handles castoffs. (It does vary widely by organization.)

JoAnn chose to wear all of her dresses – 45 total – right in a row. Her recap of The Dress Project is well worth a read!

Drug companies are scrambling to create a female Viagara.

Pretty sure this is the coolest bridal bouquet ever.

What do you all think of the Zac Posen for Target preview images? Anything tickle your fancy?

Angie is refreshing her series of posts on dressing by body type, starting with pears. If you’re a rules girl and looking for some guidance, these posts are a great launch pad.

Thanks to Audi for send me the poster image up above. I love it!

P.S. I nabbed a lovely pair of Cydwoq boots off eBay, but they’re miles too big for me, so I’m reselling them. I’m a final-sale seller, so if you’re interested ask all questions first and read the description carefully!

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12 Responses to “Lovely Links: 4/23/10”

  1. Anonymous

    Why does the thought of a female Viagra sicken you? As someone who is struggling with sexual dysfunction, I would love for there to be a drug treatment to help with arousal. Right now I have absolutely no interest in any form of sex, not even self-stimulated. It's really frustrating. I am being treated for depression but the sexual aspect has not improved at all. I'm also in therapy but that also has not changed much. As much as my life has improved in other ways, the lack of sex drive has remained a huge problem…

    I'm not sure what you would say to me, since treating this with medication "sickens" you. How else am I going to deal with this? Or am I supposed to remain an ice queen for the rest of my life? I'm not really sure what other solution you would suggest to me, since I've exhausted all remedies. My partner and I are educated about sex and he is very sensitive to my side of things, so the whole "lack of sex eduction" or "lack of education of the female body" does not apply at all to our relationship…

    I consider myself a feminist and I don't understand why a drug enabling female sexual arousal is somehow anti-feminist, and the article you linked doesn't really have an explanation, either.

  2. Marlisa

    Thanks for the Zac @ Target link. Looks like I'm making a pilgrimage this weekend. I love the long dress and one that looks like it has a draw-string hem could be interesting as well.

  3. Sal

    Anonymous: I am so sorry to hear that you've struggled with sexual dysfunction. It sounds like you have exhausted so many avenues, and I cannot begin to imagine how frustrating that must be.

    I assume your questions are rhetorical, as I am no expert in sexual dysfunction and cannot offer you alternatives or advice.

    What sickens me is not the prospect of a drug that would enable female arousal and orgasm for those who truly struggle with it, but that the drug companies will be offering an alternative to those who HAVEN'T explored other avenues. Drugs that monkey with sexual function can sometimes allow people to ignore important underlying psychological issues. I believe this would be especially true for women, for whom arousal and orgasm are so intensely emotional and intellectual.

    Additionally, not all men who use Viagra suffer from ED, as I'm sure you're aware. A female Viagra would undoubtedly be abused similarly.

    For someone in your situation, this drug could be life-changing in the best possible way. But I feel that the drug companies are banking on the potential customer base that is curious, frightened, uneducated, or lazy in addition to the truly in-need. Sometimes drugs are necessary and miraculous. Sometimes they are the quick, easy, temporary fix. Either way, the drug companies make millions.

  4. Anonymous

    My questions were indeed rhetorical, heh.

    When I read stuff like this (and this is more directed at the article that you linked, not at you specifically), it's really very discouraging. Sometimes you work really hard to fix something, but the problem falls completely out of your control. Right now I just deal with it day to day, but I have wished for a medical solution. Sometimes I think the opposite: that it's anti-feminist not to have a female Viagra, because it's ignoring the needs of many women out there, while men's sexual dysfunction needs are already met with the male version of Viagra. I think a female version of Viagra could actually be empowering, where women with sexual dysfunction can take the situation into their own hands.

    Of course pharmaceutical companies are in the business for profit, and there will be people who use the drug incorrectly (as men use Viagra for reasons other than its intended purpose), but there are people who honestly would benefit. I don't think such a development would be inherently evil or counterproductive.


    aw, sal, how lovely of you to link to me like that. i am so fascinated of YOUR style and your ability to pull off so many different styles effortlessly that such a compliment from you makes me grin like a cheshire cat. you are an incredible inspiration to me and so many others – i thank you for it. let's just not get into my envy of your shoe collection, shall we?

    by the way – the czars are one of my favourite bands ever. have you heard john grant's solo album yet? love to know what you think.


  6. Sal

    Anonymous: I completely agree, and appreciate you taking the time to express your opinion so thoroughly and eloquently. My dismay at the economics of it all – the idea that someone is, once again, going to make a fortune off of suffering – meant I hadn't fully considered the positive effects such a drug could have on many lives.

    I've had many awful personal experiences with drugs myself – everything from birth control pills to antibiotics to antidepressants – that were given to me to help with things that I eventually found could never be cured with chemicals. So I have a hard time trusting that either doctors or pharmaceutical companies truly have public health in mind, when both seem hell-bent on giving us medicines that often neither cure us nor make our lives better.

    But you're right. There's nothing inherently evil in it. Anymore than there would be in someone finally finding a drug to cure cancer, and making a fortune off it. It's just how things go.

    threadphones/joie: Awww, shucks, thanks lady! And I only have one Czars album … I'll have to investigate further!

  7. Anonymous

    I think our difference in perspective might come from our experiences in this field. I come from a family of doctors, so I've always trusted the medical profession. And I resisted going on antidepressants for so long, but when I finally did, they made me a functional human being. It's possible that our society is focused on too much pill-popping, but I think there can be a balance.

    Also, I normally don't comment anonymously but I'd rather the world not know about the details of my sexual life, so I apologize. đŸ˜›

  8. Anonymous

    I'd like to respond to anonymous and just say that I had similar feelings about what you said about female viagra sickening you. As someone who has also dealt with arousal issues in the past, I think this would be a wonderful thing to have– and I'm willing to bet some men use viagra when they should really be dealing with emotional issues, not just age issues and the like.

    From all the things I've read on female arousal, it's been my impression that arousal and orgasm problems are VERY common for women. If you've never dealt with something like this, you can't imagine how frustrating it is, not only for yourself, but for your partner. It's hard to explain to your boyfriend that you simply can't get aroused lately and it has nothing to do with him (especially when you ask your OG/GYN and she says you've probably just been dating him too long). I would have loved there to have been a drug of some kind to help me through that difficult time instead of just feeling inadequate, guilty, no longer like myself.

    I'm sure you care about women like anonymous and myself, but the word "sickening" really offended me, and I resisted saying anything until I saw there was a discussion going about this. I think "sickening" was a sickening word to use, and maybe you should have thought about being a bit more diplomatic. I know this is your blog, but you should consider the type of reader you attract.

    (Also, I do comment regularly with non-anonymously, but I felt more comfortable discussing my sexual issues this way)

  9. Sal

    Anonymous (2): Changed the wording in the post. Let it never be said that I don't listen to my readership.