Before I dig into this week’s links, I need to say something, even though I sincerely doubt that anything I say right now will change the world for the better. I am so steeped in shock and horror over how terrifyingly out-of-control things have become in my country, right here in my city, in my own neighborhood even, that I cannot imagine my words could possibly have an impact. But I have a platform, albeit a small one, and I have a heart. And although I do my best to keep my content relatively apolitical, I can’t do that right now.
Last week, Philando Castile was shot four times by a St. Anthony, MN, police officer while his fiancee and her 4-year-old daughter looked on. This is not the first such shooting in the Twin Cities, and in my heart I know it won’t be the last. I have no doubt that when I muster up the courage to turn the news back on, I’ll hear about more fatal encounters between black civilians and white police officers. There doesn’t seem to be a corner of our massive country that isn’t battling the seething racism many of us have long hoped was finally ebbing away. It’s not ebbing. It’s flooding our streets and drowning our black citizens. The governing body paid to protect their lives and safety has become a force to be feared, and as Castile’s shooting proves, remaining calm, communicating clearly, and following the rules will not save them from quick, brutal, unjust deaths.
Hashtags and expressions of sympathy are not enough. Petitions are not enough. Join Campaign Zero or visit the site to find out how to take action. Call or write to your senators and representatives. Call or write to the Attorney General of your state or of the country. Call or write your state representatives and state senators, and your city council members. I have done all of these things, and have put a note in my calendar to do so again on the first of each month. I may be doing it forever, and it may never make an impact. But I will keep on doing it. Because doing nothing, saying nothing is complicity.
And if, like me, you are a white person and at a total loss about how to help and react, I highly recommend this post: 11 Things White People Can Do to Be Real Anti-Racist Allies. Also Sarah has a great post on resources and actions to take, and more are outlined here for anyone who wants to be truly helpful in this dark, senseless time.
They pretty much never cuddle for real, but they’ve started to do some proximity napping.
This post from the Vivienne Files examines the concept of “must-haves,” and asserts that even my own short and general list from earlier this week is a bridge too far.
One of my favorite sustainable resources, LISSA the Shop, is now stocking plus sizes in a few key brands, with more to come!
The Silver Stylist creates a skillful print mix in this summery outfit.
Dapper Q is currently casting for it’s NYFW show at the Brooklyn Museum in Sepetmber – and you can submit your info digitally!
“[Actress Angela] Bassett has teamed up with her good friend, Dr. Barbara Sturm to create a [skin care] line that focuses on issues for melanin-rich skin, including inflammation, hyper pigmentation, and uneven skin tone.”
My color hero, Joi, looks radiant in her bold yellow vest and turquoise dress.
Looking for great deals on vintage Frye boots? Etsy is an AMAZING resource!
Liz reviews a few pieces from indie designer Rachel Antonoff’s collaboration with Gwynnie Bee.
“I suck in my stomach to look thinner than I am. I turn in my toes like a little girl. I slink my shoulders towards one another to be small, smaller, always smaller. And when I do these things, unnecessary contraction creates strain on my entire musculature. Under these conditions, not only does movement become more laborious, it becomes self-destructive. What is the medical term for trying to shrink because the world doesn’t want you to exist? I’m sick of trying to be small. The pursuit of smallness is literally breaking me.”
If you consider the items you bought just because they were big brand names and/or the ones that were cheap but didn’t work out in the end … does being a frequent thrift shopper actually save you money? (Via YLF)
This LAMade minidress has subtle cutouts and would be a perfect summer tunic worn with skinnies and platform sandals.
“Your body is not a ‘before’ or an ‘after,’ and neither is that woman’s changing body being shared online. You’re on a journey of a million befores and afters and a snapshot just can’t capture that beautiful reality. Sometimes those simplified, glorified comparison images actually distract people from positive health choices and experiences by turning the focus to appearance at the expense of fitness.”
The team at Hourglassy is thrilled with the Un Bra as a maternity and nursing option for big-busted women.
Lion Hunter puts her spin on the safari look with a long vest and body-con dress.
Debbie gives her thoughts on how weight fluctuations can trigger spurts of shopping, and shares some input from her community members on those topics.
“I am not trying to define self-care with strict parameters. It looks different for everyone. And sometimes, for myself included, it does look like taking bubble baths, or watching Netflix, or eating junk food. But I think it’s important to question if we are truly committing to the robust, radical, preservational care of ourselves. If our self-care pushes against traditional value systems of worthiness and productivity. If we are resisting the culture that tries to marginalize, define, and shame us, and instead taking a radical approach to nurturing our bodies, minds, and spirits.”
I got a sample of this Boscia Exfoliating Peel Gel at Sephora a few weeks back, and I’m impressed. It’s ideal for people like me who have super sensitive skin but also pores that tend to get super clogged and skin that really benefits from serious-though-periodic exfoliation.
A truly helpful guide on how to shop for lingerie
Alison reviews some items from Everlane, pointing out that the brand is unfortunately designing for women sizes 10/12 and smaller. Check the comments, too, for input and recommendations from her readers. Zady offers some similarly minimalist designs and their XLs can frequently fit to a size 14/16.
From the Department of Random: A yummy way to save ferrets from the Sylvatic plague.
Additionally, since most of us are in desperate need of a good laugh, one from the vaults: “I caught a big efish.”
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