Cultivating self-love and body positivity can feel so daunting. When you’ve spent ages trash-talking your own physical form, fielding criticism from others, or dealing with any kind of negativity that has jarred you loose from a foundation of self-respect and acceptance, the road back to body love can feel long. The work can seem overwhelming. And there will be days when you wonder if you’ll ever feel at peace with yourself again.
And, the fact is, that total self-love and body acceptance are really, really difficult to achieve. I know I’M not there, and I’ve been actively working at both goals for more years than I can count. So bear that in mind: It’s a work in progress and more about the journey than any imagined destination.
Originally posted 2012-10-19 06:30:51.
Reader Christine sent me this question via e-mail, and although it’s not strictly style or body-image related, it hit so close to home for me, I felt I should share our correspondence:
What if someone feels bad about him/herself, not because of body/appearance insecurities, but rather accomplishment/intellectuality insecurities? What would you suggest to help that person back on a path to self love? For example, the university student who can’t forgive herself for her terrible GPA, and since she valued herself based on her intellectuality, now feels as though she has no worth? Or the career woman who has worked incredibly hard to get to where she is and was passed up for that promotion (or worse, demoted) and now feels as though she has no value?
Originally posted 2011-09-19 06:10:13.
Reader Alyssa and I e-mailed back and forth about her fabulous question before I got a bead on it. She’s got a very small wardrobe of shoes – one pair for each season – and initially it sounded like she needed some general shoe-incorporation advice. I sent along these links, which were somewhat helpful:
But, in the end, she was looking for guidance on how to WEAR fun and interesting shoes, and how the choice is made to do eye-catching shoes over, say, leg-elongating ones. She wrote:
Originally posted 2011-11-22 06:11:55.