Reader Request: Self-worth and Outside Input

Reader Christine sent me this question via e-mail, and although it’s not strictly style or body-image related, it hit so close to home for me, I felt I should share our correspondence:

What if someone feels bad about him/herself, not because of body/appearance insecurities, but rather accomplishment/intellectuality insecurities? What would you suggest to help that person back on a path to self love? For example, the university student who can’t forgive herself for her terrible GPA, and since she valued herself based on her intellectuality, now feels as though she has no worth? Or the career woman who has worked incredibly hard to get to where she is and was passed up for that promotion (or worse, demoted) and now feels as though she has no value? read more

Originally posted 2011-09-19 06:10:13.

Reader Request: How Do Shoes “Make” an Outfit?

Reader Alyssa and I e-mailed back and forth about her fabulous question before I got a bead on it. She’s got a very small wardrobe of shoes – one pair for each season – and initially it sounded like she needed some general shoe-incorporation advice. I sent along these links, which were somewhat helpful:

But, in the end, she was looking for guidance on how to WEAR fun and interesting shoes, and how the choice is made to do eye-catching shoes over, say, leg-elongating ones. She wrote: read more

Originally posted 2011-11-22 06:11:55.

Presentation

body positive style

I consider style to be an integral part of presentation of self. We all have private selves that few people get to know or see, and we all have public selves that we must share with strangers and the observing world. Our public selves may speak, walk, emote, and interact differently from our private selves. Those are behavioral choices we make, actions we finesse in order to convey certain aspects of our personalities. How we hold our bodies influences presentation of self, as does how we engage in eye contact, tone and volume of speaking voice, and expressive gestures. Dressing also contributes to the public self that we craft, and the clothing we choose to wear and the ways in which we wear it can broadcast certain beliefs, traits, or preferences that we hold. read more

Originally posted 2012-09-13 06:25:21.