Make it Work

Workarounds for clothes that don't fit perfectly off the rack

No style expert worth her salt will openly condone wearing clothes that don’t fit. But THIS style expert knows that weight fluctuates, hand-me-downs happen, and occasionally a bargain lands in your lap that is so bargainous you’re willing to overlook slightly imperfect fit. (Emphasis on the slightly, I hope.) The occasional too-sheer blouse will find its way into your closet, too, as will the occasional shrunk-in-the-wash garment. So here are a few work-arounds I use when facing down challenging clothes: read more

Originally posted 2011-08-08 06:21:09.

Partner Conflicts Over Sartorial Choices

fighting with husband about clothes

It’s POSSIBLE that a certain husband dislikes this dress. Rather strongly. And said husband is generally spot-on when it comes to what works and what doesn’t for my style and body. But he’s also extremely open-minded. Often times he’ll hate something on first glance, but then compliment me when he sees it worn in the context of a fully styled outfit.¬† That’s what I expected to happen with this dress. I bought it in New York back in February, brought it home, showed it to him, and he didn’t like it. Trotted it out MONTHS later as part of this ensemble and felt smashing in it. I asked him if he’d changed his stance. Nope. Still dislikes it. read more

Originally posted 2011-10-18 06:02:08.

Self-consciousness, Focus, and Projection

Self-consciousness is a funny beast, don’t you think?

We human beings seem to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about how we look, how we look compared to others, how we’re being perceived, whether we’re cool enough, and what others might be thinking about us. And all of these concerns are natural extensions of life in an active society, and especially of life in an active society that puts great stock in physical beauty.

But there’s a piece of wisdom that floats through my brain any time I feel myself starting to truly obsess about how I’m being perceived: The vast majority of human beings are so busy worrying about THEMSELVES, they hardly even notice YOU. In other words, self-consciousness isolates and cancels. Yeah, if you walk into a crowded bar wearing a yeti costume most of the bar patrons will focus on you. But if you walk into a crowded bar wearing bar-appropriate clothes, you are unlikely to become the sole object of intense scrutiny. Everyone there is too busy wondering what you think about them to spend much energy sizing you up. read more

Originally posted 2011-10-11 06:28:58.