Suggestion Box

Time again to open up the suggestion box! Any suggestions for advice-y, how-to, tutorial type things you’d like to see me blather about? Especially for fall and winter? Or really anything you’d like to see more of or less of?

If you’ve left a suggestion before – for the box, or in the comments of another post – and I’ve overlooked your request, please, please, please let me know. I try to get to them all, but some fall through the cracks.

A couple of quick notes:

  • I am still working through some of the previous requests, so if you make one today and it doesn’t show up for a while, fear not. It will!
  • If you would rather e-mail than comment, drop me a note. Any time at all is a good time for reader requests, so don’t feel obliged to come up with yours today, or next week. Whenever is fine!
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40 Responses to “Suggestion Box”

  1. Stephanie

    I'd love some advice on mixing pieces in a smaller wardrobe.

  2. E.

    I would love to see a piece on how you can positively influence the self esteem of others around you. I find that I often have girl friends who have such poor self esteem and body image, and they look at me (where I have relatively high self esteem) and they always wish they could mimic it. But they never actually do and instead just keep beating up on themselves. Any ideas on how I can help positively influence them to feel better about themselves? (I also think this would be good information for moms as well.)

  3. Freya

    I really like your blog – I think it's really empowering as well as inspires me to mix up my wardrobe!

    I would love to see a piece on what you think the ideal capsule wardrobe should contain!

  4. sunmoonstarnes

    I would love to see something about age-appropriate dressing. I have no idea how to dress myself! I want to wear cute clothes, but I'm not sure if my tastes are "too young." For instance, what is the age cutoff for wearing mary janes?

  5. sarah

    Sal, I love that you are now doing outfit-of-the-day posts. So much inspiration there!

    I would love to see some "outfit evolution" posts. That is, not just the finished outfit but where you started and how you tweaked it to eventually make it just right.

    I feel like you often give the advice to "just go into your closet and play," which is good advice in principle but can actually be quite daunting! Because I can try to do that, and I'll put together an outfit that's not quite right, so I'll swap out the skirt, say, and end up with something that is SO so so wrong, and then…it's easy to get discouraged. So it would help me to see process as well as finished product.

  6. Turophile

    Shorts. I know you're a skirt/dress woman, as am I, but sometimes shorts seem appropriate.

  7. Turophile

    Okay, Ignore my comment re: shorts. Looks like you did it earlier this summer. 🙂 My bad. New reader trying to catch up!

  8. Mindixy

    I'm with Freya and Stephanie – I would love to see pieces on wardrobe building and how to mix pieces in a smaller wardrobe. I need to step up my professional wardrobe while staying on budget. I think I'm off to a good start this time(scored a terrific black jacket and two pairs of pants at the Gap and found a black and ivory skirt at Loft that I think will mix well). Every time I attempt this exercise, though, it seems like I just end up with more black pants and skirts (I worry that my closet looks like it's gone into mourning) and a bunch of random tops that I can't get excited about.

  9. Rachel

    I'd like a piece on either 1) dressing well when it's super cold or 2) knee high boots. Thanks and I love your blog!

  10. gcharbonnet

    I'll echo the request to think about age-appropriate dressing. I know not to wear anything too short or too low or too trendy, but I wonder if I'm still dressing too young. How can I tell?

  11. Bethany

    I agree with the outfit evolution suggestion. I would like to try to wear something different, but it takes me an hour to get dressed in the morning as I change one thing or another to make it jsut right. I usually end up just wearing the same outfit, in the interest of time!

  12. Nique

    I am addicted to you blog. Thanks for doing such a great job.
    Kind of like some of the other people who posted but a little different, I would like to see how you can style a single, basic piece (ie. black pencil skirt or white button down shirt, etc.) in several different ways to expand your wardrobe options.

  13. Tina Z

    Maybe a post on how to be an active mentor for younger girls? I'm thinking something in the vain of helping younger women get away from some of the same self-esteem/confidence traps mentioned in the book "Promiscuities" and by many of us here.

    I know this is a very general request but it seems like we're all trying to figure out style/confidence issues for ourselves, yet it's as if the initiation-like quality to the process makes us reluctant to pass on these lessons to the younger generation. Or maybe as a rule they don't listen.

  14. Cynthia

    I'm actually curious to know if you think "age-appropriate" is even a major issue in dressing anymore, or whether there are other contextual cues that matter more. Why should my clothes say "I'm 42" when I look physically younger than that?

  15. 3goodrats

    I would like to know how you make your curly hair look so nice all the time, including what products you use. My hair is the bane of my existence right now. I know it could look fabulous, but I can't quite figure out how to do that.

  16. Cynthia

    Oh, and duh I was going to add my own request, which is — more ideas about styling with flat shoes! I can't bear to wear heels over 2.5" evern, and really, I rarely wear heels at all. I feel like a little bit of a frumpionista because of that. Maybe that's just age-appropriate dressing, though…the cue that will let everyone know that I'm gettin' on in years…

    Sorry about the double post.

  17. Mana G

    How to dress in ridiculously, stiflingly hot weather…And still look fashionable.

  18. Anonymous

    Almost all of my clothes are casual work, but from time to time, I actually want to go out. I can put together cute work outfits pretty easily, but feel like I look bland in the evening. How can I take casual work clothes and make them work for going out?

  19. dtm

    I would love to hear you talk about your hair. You mentioned in a previous post that it's been a struggle to figure out how to manage your curly/wavy hair and as someone who is in the midst of trying to break up with my straightening iron and embrace my hair's natural texture, I would really appreciate some tips!

  20. Tiffany

    I know you're not a pants girl, and I'm not either, but I have to wear pants to work (engineering/construction inspector). Unfortunately its a field of men, so I don't have a lot of examples to look to, hehe.

    I would love to see a piece on how to make a utilitarian pants outfit more interesting (and no, I can't do it with shoes…steel-toed boots are a must)! I just feel like I wear the same outfit in different colors all the time.

  21. Anonymous

    Hi Sal,
    I was just wondering the other day about wearing nylons or tights with open toe shoes. Can this be done?And if so are there "rules" to the style?


  22. Sal

    Hey friends! I'm gonna duck in right quick to provide some links to existing posts that might answer some of these questions right away!

    Here's my take on wearing tights with sandals and open-toed shoes.

    This post has SOME thoughts on age-related dressing, but I'll cook up another one. That topic merits more exploration and discussion.

    Thanks for all these GREAT suggestions! I'm excited to write about them all.

  23. MJ

    2 Suggestions:

    -Dressing with individuality on Casual Fridays. I have to wear either a t-shirt (Hanes) or polo in order to wear jeans on Friday. I cannot alter the shirts in any way. I feel so very constrained in these shirts & I struggle with ways to individualize them.

    -Mom dressing. I hear from a lot of fellow moms that they want to dress nicely but they don't know where to start or how to do it. I myself struggle with the whole 'How is a mom suppose to dress' question? Are my leggings tucked into boots with a tunic top 'Mom' or not?

  24. b.

    Thanks for all you do, Sal! Your blog is always entertaining, thought-provoking, and helpful. Appreciate you!

    I have two requests:
    1) Advice on how to dress/pack for travel, specifically business travel? Or are there some other bloggers out there who do this well?

    2) If you ever have a chance, would you investigate the Dressing Your Truth system by Carol Tuttle? Deja Pseu blogged briefly about this some time ago and I noticed that you left a comment. This system FASCINATES me–on the surface it seems really awesome, and then when you look more closely it seems crazy-reductive. Also, it costs a bucketload of cash ($300) to get the real info. Also, there are women who SWEAR by this stuff! I'm so curious! For a really interesting thread about the system and the phenomenon that is Carol Tuttle's merchandising machine, see:

    Thanks again!

  25. Esti

    I'd love to hear your take on how to dress for a job where it's important to look nice but be able to move. I've worked in libraries for awhile, and though there's plenty of desk time, pencil skirts aren't good for pushing book carts, sitting on the floor and stretching/climbing to reshelve books. I imagine teachers (especially of young kids) have some of the same issues, and I'm sure other professions do as well.

    I'm pretty good at finding outfits that work for me, but I could definitely use some more ideas, especially from a fellow skirt-and-dress devotee.

  26. Heather

    A little off topic (kinda) and maybe a little late to the game but found this website and thought it was awesome. You can customize clothes for your shape. So many cute things on there and I want to buy so much. Have you ever heard of it or used this site?



    I would LOVE to see some more fashionista over 40!
    We are out there, and an interview would be even better. I think "older" women sometimes blog for different reasons than the average younger demo. Plus, "saged" bloggers are full of wisdom 🙂

  28. Anonymous

    What about a post about jewelry? How to know what earrings, necklaces, bracelets, etc. compliment your outfit and features?

  29. Anonymous

    How are you with hair and makeup? Would love to see more posts on those topics!

  30. Anonymous

    Everyone is saying fashion advice for the older crowd- how about tips for the under 18 readers??

  31. SarahN

    Hi Sal, thank you again for your Sleeved Dresses post. Could you maybe follow that train of thought into the realm of some more evening wear? My somewhat conservative office's holiday party is a mere four and a half months away, and it seems to take me that long to find something appropriate to wear, so I'd better start searching NOW. It's black-tie optional so a cocktail dress is always a safe choice, but I'm also interested in exploring separates; I have a black velvet mini skirt, but what to wear with it? A cursory online browsing session turned up plenty of club kid attire and plenty of mother-of-the-bride-goes-to-Vegas, but not much in between for us 30-somethings. I'd love to hear your thoughts!

  32. Anonymous

    I'd love to hear your thoughts and suggestions for those of us who work at home. I am lucky enough to do so, but it means that 3-4 days out of the week, I don't leave the house and only have contact with other people online. As a result, I tend to wear comfy t-shirts and pants most of the time and my nicer things hang in my closet, rarely getting worn. There are times when I really feel stuck in a stay-at-home wardrobe rut, but the fact is, no one is going to see me and I need to be comfortable sitting at my computer all day. Any suggestions on how to change up my home office uniform?

  33. Audi

    I'd love to see you do a piece about embracing our bodies and faces as we age. It bums me out to see so many attractive women succumbing to the pressure to look "younger" through cosmetic surgery and Botox and all that. You've written a lot about loving your body the way it is now, rather than the way you imagine it will be in the future — how about the other tack; loving your body now and not the way it used to be when you were younger?

  34. bubu

    Apologies this is a little late, I've been away on vacation. I wonder if you might do a post on shopping for quality/longevity. I find some stores, like Ann Taylor or LL Bean, have pretty good and consistent quality in construction and holding up to washing, etc, or really good return policies. But the Gap, for example, is much more uneven, and i've just stopped shopping at old navy because everything loses its shape after a wash. Especially when thrifting or buying at a place like TJ Maxx, which have a hodge podge, how can you assess how the piece will hold up with wear and tear and washing?


  35. dewfall

    I'd like advice on how to build simple outfits that can be taken off/on quickly, seeing as how I have physical education class and have 5 minutes to change. Anything that is fun but is still convenient?

  36. Anonymous

    I'd be thrilled if you could talk about how you choose shoe styles and shoe colors to go with the rest of the outfit.

    I only recently become bold enough to buy shoes that weren't black and by not black, I mean brown, gray, and beige/cream. I'm very unsure about how to approach colors as well as styles. Like how do you determine whether a pair of shoes goes with a skirt/dress, pants, or both?

    I admire your rainbow of shoe colors and love how you incorporate them into your outfits.

    I apologize if you have already covered this and I missed it. I dug a little into the tags but haven't been reading your blog for too long.

  37. Anonymous

    I love all your posts, and your variety of wardrobe.
    I can only wear flats or very low heels now, so would find a post useful on looking stylish without heels.

  38. Eternal*Voyageur @ Venusian*Glow

    I´d love to know your thoughts about over-dressing: like wearing something nice to a supermarket and something really extravagant to a casual occasion. I don´t mean expensive pieces, but just something elaborate and pretty. Do you think overdressing is pathetic and a sign of a boring life, or do you think it´s the rest of the people under-dressing that´s the problem ?

  39. Sal

    Just to cover all my bases, wanted to jump back in here (ages later) and point you all to some resources.

    MJ: Reader Request: Casual Friday with Style. Angie at You Look Fab has some great advice on mom dressing, but I'll try to cook up one of my own.

    Esti: Reader Request: Durable Dressing may help a little, but I'll think of some other ideas.

    dewfall: Honestly, aside from sticking mainly with dresses and minimizing accessories, I'm not sure!

    Anonymous (4): Accessorization and Figure Flattery 101

    Heather: eShakti review