A few months ago, I met with a client who was working on several self-consciousness issues. She was a tall woman, and had to endure an endless stream of height-related commentary from friends and strangers alike. Her mother had instilled in her the belief that her ankles and feet were huge and unsightly, and was struggling to make peace with that. She loved fun clothes and dressing up, but lived in a community where folks attended just about every event from “night at the gym” to “night on the town” in the same casual, comfy duds. We talked at length about this last one, and she said, “I have one friend who I’ve never seen in anything but a fleece and jeans. I wouldn’t want to head to a girls night out in a frilly dress and make her feel uncomfortable.”
Originally posted 2013-02-18 06:32:24.
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The vast majority of my style consult clients had great clothes and fabulous ideas for outfit assembly. The vast majority of my style consult clients also struggled with jewelry and accessories. I heard so many of them say, “Oh, I don’t really wear jewelry. I don’t even own any!” Only to haul out unworn and forgotten stashes of necklaces, bangles, and earrings. Others said, “I love scarves on other people, but just can’t figure them out for me.” A few scarf tie tutorials later, and they were back in the game. I spent a lot of time illustrating how jewelry and accessories make outfits feel more complete, finished, and polished. And then I tried to reinforce the importance of incorporating them into daily dressing rituals.
Originally posted 2013-02-08 06:26:08.
Commando brand tights via Nordstrom
Reader H e-mailed me this request:
I’m writing to you today because I am FED UP with a fashion problem that has been plaguing me for years: tights. Pantyhose are The Devil, but I love skirts and I love wearing them in the winter, so tights are a necessity. I know that you’ve already covered your own struggles with the dreaded segmented worm syndrome, and the ways you’ve worked around it, but I still haven’t found a solution that works for me.
Originally posted 2013-02-15 06:08:49.