Posts Tagged: body bashing

On Variety

Many of the messages we receive about bodies have to do with conforming. The current standards for physical female beauty are narrow and exclusionary, yet we are pressured to deprive, manipulate, and punish our bodies into fitting those narrow, exclusionary standards. We are told, “Be the same, or be wrong.” We are told, “Look this way, or be lesser-than.” We are told, “There’s no room for variation here, so do everything in your power to conform.”

But no two human beings are alike. Even identical twins, who have the same genes down to the last, have distinct personalities, needs, voices, desires, and ambitions … and frequently metabolize, tan, and take hair color differently from one another. That “unique snowflake” cliche exists for a reason: We’re all marvelously individual. And that marvelous individuality is what makes human life interesting. read more

Originally posted 2012-01-10 06:37:03.

Self-consciousness, Focus, and Projection

Self-consciousness is a funny beast, don’t you think?

We human beings seem to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about how we look, how we look compared to others, how we’re being perceived, whether we’re cool enough, and what others might be thinking about us. And all of these concerns are natural extensions of life in an active society, and especially of life in an active society that puts great stock in physical beauty.

But there’s a piece of wisdom that floats through my brain any time I feel myself starting to truly obsess about how I’m being perceived: The vast majority of human beings are so busy worrying about THEMSELVES, they hardly even notice YOU. In other words, self-consciousness isolates and cancels. Yeah, if you walk into a crowded bar wearing a yeti costume most of the bar patrons will focus on you. But if you walk into a crowded bar wearing bar-appropriate clothes, you are unlikely to become the sole object of intense scrutiny. Everyone there is too busy wondering what you think about them to spend much energy sizing you up. read more

Originally posted 2011-10-11 06:28:58.

This Week I Love …

Adele.

I mean, first off, this woman absolutely OOZES talent. She’s what, 22 now, and the proud owner of multiple Grammys? She’s passionate, ambitious, fearless, and absolutely mesmerizing in performance. Her songs are heart-wrenching, her voice is absolutely hypnotic, and her self-confidence is utterly inspiring.

Secondly, I absolutely adore her personal style. Classic, pared-down, and heavy on the retro influence? Yes, please! She’s worn a couple of Barbara Tfank gowns that stopped me dead in my tracks, I’d like to crawl inside her gorgeous hair to LIVE, and although she’s a little color-shy she certainly knows how to pick gorgeous and flattering silhouettes. I would quite happily swap closets with her. read more