Most body-love calls to action either focus on the whole, asking you to accept yourself entirely, or emphasize the bigger, weight-influenced limb groups like bellies, butts, and boobs. Broad strokes, big goals. And depending on where you’re at in your personal body image journey, those broad strokes and big goals can feel overwhelming and out of reach. If you’ve achieved body neutrality and want to actively move toward body love, but feel daunted by the prospect of lavishing affection on parts of yourself that you still see in a negative light, consider starting smaller. Give some love to the little things, the details of your body.
Originally posted 2015-03-24 06:24:51.
There have been times in my life when I’ve postponed change or celebration or reward because of my body. I’ve said to myself, “I’ll do that once I’m happier with myself. Once I’ve lost weight/toned up/changed my shape, I’ll allow myself this activity or thing. I’ll should wait until then and reward myself.”
I know I am not alone. So many of us buy into the idea that we should motivate ourselves by depriving ourselves. If we don’t book that vacation or buy that new wardrobe until after we’ve changed our bodies, the pent-up excitement created by anticipation will fuel our body-changing efforts. Which may be true to some small extent, maybe, probably at the very beginning of a body-change journey. But there’s a darker side to this internal bargain: The belief that we don’t actually deserve change or celebration or reward until we look “different” or “better,” which usually means “smaller” or “thinner.”
Originally posted 2015-03-19 06:11:56.
I’ve been thrifting since I was 13. Back then, I didn’t have a defined style and didn’t know much about my body so if I saw something that looked cool, I’d try it on. And I learned over time that clothing sizes are totally arbitrary, and sometimes a piece that says it’s three sizes too small or big will fit perfectly.
I’ve been shopping mall stores since high school. Early on I just went for the styles I saw my friends and peers wearing, but eventually I branched out. I played it safe for a while, but eventually started hauling unusual styles and cuts into the fitting room with me. Which yielded lots of duds and the occasional gem. I learned that some things look funky on the rack, and others may be designed far outside my comfort zone, but I’ll never really know how they look until I get them onto my actual body.
Originally posted 2015-03-03 06:12:21.