Jenni e-mailed me with this great question:
I’m working on dressing both for comfort and figure flattery in the home context, as I (and my hubby) work at home some days. I also have “new-to-me” breasts – they’ve grown a couple of cup sizes in the last few years and now I’m 40+, so support is key. I do buy good quality bras – but I don’t really want to wear all that hardware when I’m in all day or hanging out with hubby and kid at night. Still, being nicely contained is more comfortable (and makes me feel a little better when I catch my profile in a mirror). What do you and others do for support and flattery when not out and about in the world? I’m too big up top to get much mileage out of a yoga top, and I would love some ideas or to know what others are doing.
Originally posted 2014-03-03 06:55:47.
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Reader Rhianna sent this request via e-mail.
I was wondering if you could maybe do a post on scarves for larger-chested girls like myself. I love scarves, but I have large breasts and they never seem to lay right. Do you have any advice?
I am not in possession of a large bust myself, but I’ve worked with style clients who are busty and struggle to make scarves work. So I’ll offer a few tips, and ask you all to chime in with more!
A giant, thick, oversized scarf is likely to add bulk and volume to the figure of a large-busted woman – or, really, any woman – especially if she also has a shorter neck and/or long and voluminous hair. On the other hand, there’s something to be said for scale: A teeny silk square may look lost on your frame, or make your bust appear even bigger. So depending on your personal figure flattery priorities, you might consider tracking down a medium-sized scarf that feels like it matches the scale of your unique frame.
Originally posted 2013-01-08 06:45:51.
I had a long, enlightening conversation with a bra fitter a few months ago. We were deep in a discussion about style, dressing, and body image when she said that in her profession, every customer she’s met and helped felt has vulnerable and self-conscious.
“No one is happy with what they have,” she told me. “They all want what they haven’t got.”
I thought about my own breasts. I have always wanted them to be bigger. Always. And it wasn’t until I started complaining about them in front of my friends with larger busts that I learned many women would so much rather have small breasts than large. Or even medium. I’ve always had thick, wavy hair and always wanted thin, straight hair. Again, people have told me they’d kill for my hair. (Hopefully not kill ME …) And then I thought about an L’Wren Scott quote I’d seen years and years ago.
Originally posted 2013-01-10 06:15:59.