Posts Tagged: breasts

Greener Grass

I had a long, enlightening conversation with a bra fitter a few months ago. We were deep in a discussion about style, dressing, and body image when she said that in her profession, every customer she’s met and helped felt has vulnerable and self-conscious.

“No one is happy with what they have,” she told me. “They all want what they haven’t got.”

I thought about my own breasts. I have always wanted them to be bigger. Always. And it wasn’t until I started complaining about them in front of my friends with larger busts that I learned many women would so much rather have small breasts than large. Or even medium. I’ve always had thick, wavy hair and always wanted thin, straight hair. Again, people have told me they’d kill for my hair. (Hopefully not kill ME …) And then I thought about an L’Wren Scott quote I’d seen years and years ago. read more

Originally posted 2013-01-10 06:15:59.

Reader Request: Bodies and Decency

Reader Leah sent me this question via email:

Views on body hair seem to me like part of a larger trend of regarding certain secondary sexual characteristics of women as obscene or inappropriate. Here are several examples:

“Bikini area” – The top 6″ of my inner thighs grow pubic hair rather than leg hair. I don’t think I’m allowed to wear a bathing suit that shows this hair. Showing leg hair might be seen as icky or unconventional, but I’d be concerned about being reported for indecent exposure if I showed pubic hair. I’ve never seen a woman wearing a bathing suit that showed this type of hair in this location. (Incidentally, shaving gives me terrible ingrown hairs, so I eventually started wearing board shorts when I swim. I’m quite satisfied with that solution, but it makes me “weird” and people ask why I don’t wear a standard bathing suit.) read more

Reader Request: Different Bras for Different Needs

Reader Emma e-mailed me this question:

I invested a significant chunk of money on several bras, and suddenly realized that my shirts look kind of different depending on what bra I am wearing. (Maybe this is obvious; it was quite a revelation to me!) To get to my question: do you have advice on what style of bra to wear with different types of shirts/sweaters/dresses? I’m thinking of the differences between a molded cup that really separates and smooths, versus non-molded cups that are supportive but don’t have a shape on their own and therefore have a slightly more ‘natural’ look, versus a no-underwire style that creates less separation. Of course there are many styles of bra that women could be working with, I just list these examples to try and make my question more understandable. read more