My experience with cultivating positive body image may seem a bit backwards. I know many women who feel like they’ve only ever been valued for their looks, feel like so few people care about their life philosophies, goals, personalities, senses of humor. I felt like plenty of folks respected my inner self but no one saw or valued my beauty, my body, my physical self. And I felt that way for YEARS until I figured out that scads of people saw and valued my beauty, my body, my physical self. It was me. I was the one who couldn’t acknowledge what was good and sexy and amazing and gorgeous about my own body.
Originally posted 2012-02-06 06:17:44.
Reader Erin e-mailed me this request:
Every style blogger makes blazers look great, but I find them hard to style. They seem so versatile on the rack, but then seem frumpy (I’m 24), too dressy/formal, or occasionally too equestrian when I try to create an outfit with them. I’ve asked some stylish friends and several of them have run into the same issues. Do you have any tips or suggestions for styling blazers well?
It took me a while to feel like I could make blazers work within the context of my style, so I can relate to Erin’s frustrations. Blazers get a lot of play in fashion mags and advice columns, but they CAN feel a bit challenging. Especially if you’re still exploring your own personal style while trying to embrace the flattering and eschew the formal.
Originally posted 2012-01-30 06:23:06.
“The most common way people give up their power
is by thinking they don’t have any.”
~ Alice Walker
Quote shown at the beginning of “Miss Representation”
Last week, I attended a screening of Miss Representation, an amazing and heartbreaking film about how mainstream media contribute to the under-representation of women in positions of power and influence in the United States. The film touched on body image, sexism, racism, the systematic demonization of feminists, the nauseating objectification of women, and many other issues that outraged and sickened me. Images of high school girls crying because they hate themselves, political leaders being dismissed for their fashion choices,and bikini-clad body after roiling bikini-clad body made me dizzy with dismay. And, if I’m being honest, it made me call into question my work, my writing, and my goals. I want women to be empowered, and in a moment of panic I questioned the value of style advice as a tool for empowerment. After all, the problem is that women are increasingly taught to believe that the ONLY thing that matters about us is how we look. And I’ll be damned if I’m going to contribute to that insidious lie.
Originally posted 2011-10-24 06:07:24.