Style is a vast, intimidating realm of topics, choices, and tastes. And as time goes on, it just becomes more intimidating as more wearable options present themselves and social expectations about coverage, chicness, and variety flux and expand. This, I believe, is why style rules are so popular. For many of us, having some sort of expert-blessed guidelines for what works and what doesn’t, what’s fashionable and what’s passé can help us navigate the realm of personal style with some measure of confidence.
Originally posted 2013-09-06 06:34:20.
When I was in college, I got scolded by a guy for not caring enough about my clothes. He took it upon himself to tell me that I’d be so much prettier if I’d just put on a dress once in a while. He was an acquaintance, not a friend, and he felt it was important to let me know that my lack of interest in fashion was affecting his perception of me. And potentially the perceptions of others. I did not care enough about fashion.
The receptionist at my old job was an older gal and famously grumpy. She was one of those people whose compliments always felt backhanded and acidic. She made a point of commenting whenever I wore something she perceived to be new – items that, nine times out of ten, I’d had for years but not yet worn to the office. When I told her I was writing a book, she lit up. When I told her what it was about, she pulled a grimace. I cared too much about fashion.
Originally posted 2013-09-26 06:04:47.
Roberta popped this question into the suggestion box:
Wearing winter white, in particular shoes. I think ivory looks elegant, but how not to look like the Stay Puft Marshmallow Man? And what color shoes? Black seems harsh, and white or ivory seems nurse-y or at least impractical in the winter. Ack.
And now that winter is basically over, I’m finally getting around to tackling it. I have no idea how I missed this request for so long. Please don’t fire me.
Style rules are loosening overall, but the one I’ve seen get the loosey-goosey-est of late is the one that says “no white pants or shoes after Labor Day or before Memorial Day.” It’s your prerogative to continue following that rule if you’d prefer to do so – I did until very recently – but if you feel ready to flout it, now’s the time. Rather hilariously, white has been a “trendy” color for several years running, and it’s definitely fair game for year-round wear. If you don’t believe me, consult any fashion magazine you can lay your hands on.
Originally posted 2013-03-11 06:32:36.