Most body-love calls to action either focus on the whole, asking you to accept yourself entirely, or emphasize the bigger, weight-influenced limb groups like bellies, butts, and boobs. Broad strokes, big goals. And depending on where you’re at in your personal body image journey, those broad strokes and big goals can feel overwhelming and out of reach. If you’ve achieved body neutrality and want to actively move toward body love, but feel daunted by the prospect of lavishing affection on parts of yourself that you still see in a negative light, consider starting smaller. Give some love to the little things, the details of your body.
Originally posted 2015-03-24 06:24:51.
I had a long, enlightening conversation with a bra fitter a few months ago. We were deep in a discussion about style, dressing, and body image when she said that in her profession, every customer she’s met and helped felt has vulnerable and self-conscious.
“No one is happy with what they have,” she told me. “They all want what they haven’t got.”
I thought about my own breasts. I have always wanted them to be bigger. Always. And it wasn’t until I started complaining about them in front of my friends with larger busts that I learned many women would so much rather have small breasts than large. Or even medium. I’ve always had thick, wavy hair and always wanted thin, straight hair. Again, people have told me they’d kill for my hair. (Hopefully not kill ME …) And then I thought about an L’Wren Scott quote I’d seen years and years ago.
Originally posted 2013-01-10 06:15:59.
Margaret e-mailed me this question:
Minneapolis is cold. Syracuse is cold. To leave the house without a hat on your head when it’s 12 degrees outside is just insane. But what hat? And what do you do about hat head? Is there something I’m supposed to do to my hair to prevent hat head (like braid it)? Will I end up looking like Heidi? And if you just surrender and wear a hat all day in order to prevent hat head what type of hat should that be? If I wear a sock cap will I look like I stepped out of a grunge concert circa 1993? If I wear a beret will I look pretentious? Should I just be using the hood on my jacket?
Originally posted 2013-01-28 06:44:31.