Posts Tagged: hair

Curly Hair Bias

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My hair is naturally curly/wavy and has been since I was a baby. My mom’s hair is naturally pin-straight and I have literally never seen her without a perm. I grew up in a household that revered curls, had a long string of boyfriends who adored my curls, and have never gotten anything but praise for my own voluminous curls.

When I cut my hair short and began straightening it, I got some comments and e-mails lamenting the loss of my curls. I am about 6,000% happier now with short, straight hair than I ever was with long curls and don’t foresee going back anytime soon. And over time I’ve realized that despite the near-constant influx of praise for my curly hair, I never actually liked it. Never felt like myself in it. Even though I never got anything but positive feedback about my hair, I never enjoyed it or felt like it suited me. I felt like it was the most dominant thing about my appearance, that it overtook nearly everything else about me, engulfed me, even eclipsed me. Also my curls were delicate and unpredictable. A stiff breeze or a shirt pulled over my head would completely change how my hair looked for the remainder of the day. It drove me nuts that my hair took such intense and constant babying to look good. My current ‘do is reliable, predictable, blissfully boring. read more

Reader Request: Short Hair and Personal Style Shifts

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Jess popped this question into the suggestion box:

As someone who is considering going from long to short hair, a post on how your crop has changed your styling would be very interesting!

I chopped my hair in July of 2011 so we’re going on two years for the pixie. Initially, I got a lot of comments about how changing my hair was causing me to change my dressing choices, and I can’t say that I agreed. In fact, looking back I’ve found that I am making very similar styling choices now, as a short-haired gal, to the ones I made with longer locks. Behold: read more

Hair or Bare: A Pubic Service Announcement

This post is about grooming choices for erogenous zones. Image is safe for work, but subject matter may not be!

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Pubic grooming is a topic that comes up frequently in my conversation with my friends. Dishing about the in-between bits with a trusted confidant makes for a fun, not to mention fascinating coffee date.  Most people I’ve talked to aren’t terribly picky when it comes to the aesthetics of their partners’ parts. As one pal put it, “If you’ve put some effort into the presentation, that’s nice. But the bottom line is, if I’m about to have sex you I’m going to be excited what’s down there no matter what it look like.” read more