Posts Tagged: media

I Love My Knees

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Can we talk about knees for a moment?

Many years ago, a friend made a passing comment about her “fat knees.” I was about 22 at the time and utterly baffled. Previous to that, I’d never met anyone who felt self-conscious about her knees for any reason and figured they were not a point of bodily scrutiny for most folks. Oh, how wrong I was. And the older I get, the more women I meet who are so ashamed of their knees that they insist upon covering them with long pants or midi skirts at all times. And although most of these women are older than me – apparently knees that have passed the age of 40 are frequently assigned to the “eye-searingly gross” category – some are younger. Many, many women hate their knees. Women of all ages, sizes, and shapes. read more

Originally posted 2014-10-20 06:15:51.

Changing Your Body Image Monologue

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No one is born hating her body. We learn to hate ourselves as we begin interacting with other people and absorbing messages from the media and participating in society. Eventually, the negativity becomes ingrained and we outgrow outside input, berating ourselves and scorning our own physical forms with little or no prompting. That internalized loathing becomes a body image monologue, a personalized story that loops and loops, reinforcing negative feelings and drowning out love.

Now each person’s body image monologue is different, so I won’t presume to know how to change yours. But here’s where I can help: For many of us, the drone of that negative feedback is so low and constant that we hardly even realize it’s there. We’ve lost it to familiarity, so we don’t even realize it’s something we want to combat. But changing your inner body image monologue can be transformative because it alters your baseline. Even just moving from a baseline of body hatred to a baseline of body neutrality can ease stress, change thought patterns, and encourage acceptance and serenity. So here’s where you might want to start: read more

Originally posted 2013-12-10 06:21:29.

Ways to Cultivate Media Immunity

How to cultivate media immunity and be a smart consumer of fashion media.

I’ll level with ya: I’m not sure that true media immunity is possible. Not for those of us who watch movies and television, use the Internet, and read magazines or even just view their covers. And that can feel frustrating since the messages we receive from mass media about beauty, bodies, and value are oppressive and upsetting: It’s hard to cultivate self-love in the face of relentless images of women who don’t look a thing like you, information about how to hide your “flaws,” and unending pressure to lose weight and tone up. Progress has been made on a few fronts, but many media outlets still dump this stuff on us daily. And since we can’t get away from it, I think it’s wise to create a plan of reaction and to cultivate as much immunity as possible. Until we can recast the messages, we must be aware of how we receive them. read more

Originally posted 2012-02-23 06:13:50.