Posts Tagged: negative self-talk

Body Love, Pride, and Vanity

Occasionally, someone will pipe up in a conversation about body image to request consideration of pride and vanity. Suggestions of praising one’s own body aloud – either into a mirror or in conversation with others – can seem not only challenging, but downright conceited to some. Lavishing adoration upon one’s physical form is so far from the norm that it can feel foreign, uncomfortable, even dirty and shameful. Body love and self-acceptance are important, but at what point do we veer over into body worship and self-absorption? read more

Originally posted 2013-01-31 06:05:47.

How to Love Yourself

how to love yourself

After decades of hetero-centric Valentine’s Day stories and articles that talk about savoring love, finding love, and keeping love with another person, it seems like there followed a tidal wave of “love yourself” topics and ideas for this holiday. And those have now become a little cliche. But since I’m in favor of self-love EVERY day, since I think loving yourself can enhance your ability to be a good partner, and since the topic of self-love can be extremely daunting, I’m going to cliche it up for the day. read more

Originally posted 2013-02-14 06:16:39.

Find the Why


Learning to quiet or cease negative self-talk is a worthy goal, but it can be a lot harder to reach if you attack it without any background information. Do you know when you started hearing these hurtful things rattling around in your head? Do they come louder or more frequently at certain times or around certain people? Why do you think your internal monologue sounds this way?

Finding the why of negative behaviors can be a long, challenging process, but it’s nearly always worthwhile. Margarita Tartakovsky has a fabulous suggestion for kick-starting the process in a gentle, caring way. read more