Posts Tagged: personality

Why Caring About Your Appearance Is Valuable to Self-care


There are plenty of people who still believe that style is a frivolous pursuit. Plenty more maintain that caring for and loving your body is a waste of energy and that it’s what’s inside that matters – intellect, creativity, emotions, personality. Here are the reasons I disagree with both:

In order to move through most peopled societies, we are required to wear clothing. Nudist colonies aside, we’ve all got to get dressed every day if we want to leave our homes for any reason. Of course, economics, geography, body shape and size, ability, and many other factors can limit available clothing choices. But with thrift and fast fashion, online shopping and expanded sizing options, most people have more options now than they did even five years ago. Many, many people have choices when they dress, and what they choose to wear reflects at least a small portion of their inner lives. And in my opinion, since we’ve got to get dressed anyway, we might as well do it expressively and in ways that feel good. I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: Dress, grooming, and overall appearance constitute the first levels of information about ourselves that we offer to the observing world. They may not be the most important, but they are the first, which makes them worthy of effort and attention. read more

Originally posted 2014-08-11 06:28:58.

Versions of You

I’m still co-chairing the advisory board for Leaders of Today and Tomorrow, and let me tell you, friends, the program blows my mind on a regular basis. Our dedicated board members, talented mentors, and passionate fellows make every program year inspiring in its own unique way.

One of the things we always say about the program is that everyone learns. The fellows may be there to soak up knowledge, but our speakers and panelists and mentors and facilitators all learn about themselves each year, too. Here’s a great example: I give a presentation on dressing for interviews, networking, and office life every year. In years past, I’ve always gotten questions from the fellows about how to dress professionally while simultaneously expressing their personalities. So I touch on that topic each year now. But a young woman in last year’s cohort responded to my caveats and tips for being unique while also conforming with this tidbit of wisdom: There’s nothing natural about an interview. Interviews are a construct for everyone involved, so why get hung up on self-expression? read more