Posts Tagged: sex

Body Image in the Bedroom

Advice for those who struggle with body image issues in the bedroom with their partners.

A while back, Mar left this comment on a post about body image:

Have your negative body image issues ever affected your relationship with your romantic partner? This is what I am struggling with right now. I go through these cycles of feeling flabby, outright fat, you-name-it, totally unattractive. My partner loves my body irrespective of where in my body image cycle I am. But my body image issues affect me and by extension then him in terms of the physical aspects of the relationship. And it’s a huge issue I am not really sharing with him: I mean, who wants to constantly hear their partner talk themselves down? read more

Originally posted 2011-01-10 06:06:50.

Reader Request: Bodies and Decency

Reader Leah sent me this question via email:

Views on body hair seem to me like part of a larger trend of regarding certain secondary sexual characteristics of women as obscene or inappropriate. Here are several examples:

“Bikini area” – The top 6″ of my inner thighs grow pubic hair rather than leg hair. I don’t think I’m allowed to wear a bathing suit that shows this hair. Showing leg hair might be seen as icky or unconventional, but I’d be concerned about being reported for indecent exposure if I showed pubic hair. I’ve never seen a woman wearing a bathing suit that showed this type of hair in this location. (Incidentally, shaving gives me terrible ingrown hairs, so I eventually started wearing board shorts when I swim. I’m quite satisfied with that solution, but it makes me “weird” and people ask why I don’t wear a standard bathing suit.) read more

Sex And The Trouble With Normal

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In regards to sex there’s one question I get a LOT. The specifics may vary a great deal from one person to the next but the gist of the query is the same:

Am I normal?

My answer will be different depending on the situation but my general opinion regarding sex, normalcy and whether the description applies to is more or less standard:

Nope. You’re not normal.

As far I as can tell there is no “normal” when it comes to sex. I have yet to learn of a sexual desire, appetite, aversion or practice that is truly universal or truly unique. To put it another way, not everyone is into the same sexual stuff as you. But whatever it is you are (or aren’t) into sexually, you aren’t the only one. So, no I don’t think you’re normal. I don’t think that I’m normal. When it comes to sex, I don’t even know what “normal” means. read more