I trust my readers to take everything I say and evaluate it for themselves. I trust every single one of you to read whatever I’ve written, mull it over, take what is useful to you, reject what is not, and question anything that confuses or concerns you.
I also trust that you’re doing this with ALL style advice. I trust you to look at anything labeled a style rule and make your own call: Does this rule apply to your life, lifestyle, personal style, budget, taste, age, body type? If not, there is no need to follow it. And no need to feel uneasy about rejecting it.
And now, the nudge: You MUST trust yourselves. Trust your own judgment, trust your eye for quality and design, trust your instincts about figure flattery. And trust your instinct to ask questions when you just don’t know what to think, but remember that any advice you get is subject to evaluation and rejection. You’re in charge of every decision about your personal style and personal appearance.
I worry that shows like “What Not to Wear” have generated major anxiety about personal style. We look at those women, weeping in the dressing rooms, and think, “Holy hell, if she’s doing it wrong, I could be doing it wrong, too.” But there is no wrong. There isn’t! I don’t care what Stacey and Clinton, Trinny and Susannah say. There may be ways to dress yourself that are more flattering, more current, more refined … but whatever you’re wearing now, you’ve got your reasons. And if you want to change, if you’re looking for styles that are more flattering, more current, more refined, KICK ASS! Looking your best is a huge component of self-care, in my opinion, and I created this blog with the idea in mind that helping women to look their best will help them to feel better, stronger, more beautiful on a daily basis. But don’t let anyone shame you for what you wear, even if it’s a group of items on everyone’s list of no-nos. Because you have your reasons, and it’s your choice to change.
When a friend gives you advice on your career or your relationships, you never just take her advice blindly without a period of contemplation. Style advice is no different. I assume you’re here because you’re interested in my opinions on things, but I also assume that you’ll think I’m full of beans for a good percentage of the time. I assume that if I post about platforms or makeup or belting my dresses that you’ll know there’s no implication of right or wrong in anything I say, just my opinion. And yes, I’ll write about style rules, because even loose, subjective rules CAN be helpful when applied as guidelines, and because people do ask for them. But I trust you to make your own decisions about whether those rules fit your specific personal style.
Image courtesy Catskills Grrl.
Originally posted 2010-03-24 05:59:00.