Your Style, Your Body

Style advice can help guide decisions. Trends can influence styling. Matters of proportion and figure flattery can impact outfit assembly and dressing choices. The information, opinions, and guidance offered by style experts and resources can be useful, fun, and enlightening.

But never forget that you decide what looks good on you, to you, and for you. Your opinion eclipses all others, and you drive your own sartorial train. No expert can ban you from wearing anything and no rule can prevent you from buying anything. Clothing should make you feel powerful, amazing, unstoppable, and gorgeous. If the clothing that experts say you should be wearing fails to do any of those things for you, look elsewhere.

Your style, your body. Make choices about both that bring happiness into your world.

Images via Buttercup Rocks, TaneshaAwasthi and PinkBow.

Originally posted 2011-09-29 06:14:46.

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24 Responses to “Your Style, Your Body”

  1. Kola

    am i allowed to say that i love you for this post? I have a ridiculous collection of belts that i once intended to use to “cinch my waist”. it took a while for me to realize that i have really long legs and a short torso. Cinching my waist pretty much deletes whatever little mid-section i have. anyone want free belts? haha

    seriously though. i really enjoyed reading this. love your blog 🙂

    • Cynthia @ Go Chic or Go Home

      I’m with you, Kola. All legs and a short torso. I love how fabulous all of my blogger friends look when they cinch it up, but belts at my true waist end up making my hips look wonky. That, and any torso I had vanishes.

      I live in a belt-free zone…unless I wear the belt in the belt loops of my jeans/pants. (Do people still do that? Are belt loops the new wisdom teeth?) That I like.

      Great post, Sally!

    • hellotampon

      I hear you! For the longest time I kept trying to make belts work for me, and it just wasn’t happening, even though I have a very defined natural waist. Then I realized that it’s because that waist is so high! I’ve got these big ol’ boobs with my waist and hips crammed right underneath them. Under that is some… undefined space? and then my legs start. When I was 19 and very, very skinny, I could wear wide belts around my hips but now that just looks strange too.

    • Hazel

      Heh, you and I are opposite. I’ve got short legs and a long torso. I wear belts with everything. If only we wre local I’d totally offer to swap for all the stuff I’ve bought that doesn’t work!

  2. SarahN

    Yes and yes. But don’t undervalue the objective opinions of friends. If your bestie says that something doesn’t look good on you, it probably doesn’t.

    @Kola: I’ll take your belts! 😉

    • Jen

      Or your mother. I’ve said, lovingly, of course, that that bright yellow sweater makes her look like Big Bird or that peach tunic makes her look pregnant. And she does the same for me.

      Now if only everything I want to wear would come in my (plus) size.

  3. Bubu

    I love this! So true! I’ve also come to realize that so often it’s not about this or that style working for my body shape or size, rather, the crucial element is FIT. If it fits well, isn’t too tight or too loose anywhere, chances are it can look good. or at least I can then objectively assess… e.g., skinny jeans need to fit one’s body as well as bootcut jeans – then you can determine how they look, how you like them. (It took me a long time to realize that “skinny” jeans didn’t = “tight”).

  4. Jen

    How do you find style blogs like yours? I’m trying to find bloggers that are similar in body shape to myself (short, slightly heavy hourglass) for inspiration but Google nets me with nothing.

    • Sal

      Jen, it can be tough. My recommendation is click through the blogrolls of blogs you enjoy and see what you find. (Mine is here: I don’t want to point to any specific ones because I don’t want to assume anything about your proportions.

    • Piper Alexander

      Jen, I want to invite you to take a look at my blog, and the blogs I follow (links found on the right side of my site). Maybe you can find some inspiration here or there!

  5. Shannyn

    Can I get an AMEN! I find that less and less I am asking people if something “looks good” because I don’t need their validation to give it a thumbs up or down. I will ask for guidance if I’m trying to achieve a certain look, but I find my need for approval is far smaller and my desire to conform is even smaller so! 🙂 It’s all about feeling beautiful in your own skin (and your clothes!)

  6. Seraphinalina

    Absolutely agree. I don’t care if other people think I should wear green or orange – it simply does not make me happy. If I am not happy, I do not look good. End of story.

  7. Jen

    Sal, ever since I started reading your blog I’ve felt empowered to wear whatever I want that makes ME feel pretty. This post is a summary of why I come here each and every day to get a shot in the arm of fashion self-confidence. The funny thing is that I get more compliments now than ever before. And I love what I’m wearing! Thank you for telling us to take the risks we want to take, and please ourselves with whatever pretty, punk, classic, frilly, or daring fashion choice we so choose.

  8. Carolyn

    I love this post. The only flaw I see in it is that styling can be sooooo much more difficult if you are going against trends. I know what looks good on me and what I can actually wear, but if the collective of high fashion designers hasn’t deemed it suitable for this season, it can be nearly impossible to find. And the hunt for these things can really take a toll on self-esteem.

  9. Anonymous

    Just what I was thinking about in the past couple of days, actually–and one of the key things following your blog has given me more confidence and inspiration for. Thank you, once again!

  10. Terri

    I agree, though one of the wonderful things about blogging is that it pushes me out of my comfort zone and encourages me to try things I wouldn’t have otherwise. A good circle of readers can provide great ideas too. You’re right though, it comes down to your own personal choice.

  11. Courtney

    Don’t we all need a reminder of this sometimes? Even when it comes to style, we often look up to those around us that appear carefree, confident and happy. Those that break rules and follow their gut. Ultimately, we shouldn’t get down on ourselves, but try to do the same. Cover our ears to any negativity and press on!

    I Can Be Many Things

  12. Hazel

    Thank you for this. I’m really trying to work on this, on only wearing things that I think make me look awesome. Today I’m wearing a dress I bought six years ago, and have never worn before because I didn’t think I had a good enough body to wear strapless.

  13. Jet Harrington

    Amen, sister! I love the colourful clothes made for kids, and when my daughter was younger (she’s in college now), I wished I could wear happy clothes like hers. Now, I seek out the colourful, the funky patterns, the delight in the sartorial. No one woudl call me the crazy old lady (yet), but it feels fun and quirky for me, and much better in a northwest grey winter than all the greys and blacks and browns that are more practical. Cheers to the clothes that make us happy!

  14. Melinda

    Thanks for this post, Sal…I appreciate it.

    I have always been criticized for my clothing choices. At 27 years old, I’m starting to develop my own personal style.

    I know what looks good on me. Other people are often quick to voice negative opinions and unwanted criticism, but I’ve learned to accept that.